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16 Responses to 21 Ways to Raise a Feminist Child

  1. Mary

    How about #22: don’t direct your essays about parenting solely to a female readership through use of “love yourself…because your children need to see a woman who respects herself.”

    Just nitpicking? Probably. But my husband is just as invested as raising a feminist child as I am, and this article seems mostly directed towards women.

  2. Lyndsay  

    Hi Mary,
    Perhaps reread the article? I am very inclusive in regards to male parents as in honouring them and their role can we break down the gender binaries that oppress many women. But as a mother, I write as a woman.

    • Audrey

      Mary, maybe here is a key you could consider:

      Feminism is about equality in rights beetween men and women (at least in my opinion). Your “i write as a woman” make me wonder how dichotomize is your way of thinking. If you were thinking equality about men and women you wouldn’t make a huge emphasis about “writting as a woman” or you wouldn’t talk about JUST women which is what you do. You would write as “a human beeing”, or as ” a parent”. Here is your signature in my opinion that you are not (or at least not a real) feminist. Call yourself a women activist, matriarcal society prayer, or whatever you want (which would be also fine by the way you have the right to emphasise on women as you want, and that could be your opinion that a matriarcal society is better), but as a feminist, i don’t rely on what you say here. I don’t think you are a feminist. Your emphasis all the way in the article is more about being a woman than a feminist, all about valorising women (versus who?), body image and so on…

  3. Mary

    Perhaps a better title would have been 21 ways for moms to raise a feminist child? You talk about honouring fathers, but the article is addressed to mothers.

    I think it’s awesome, don’t get me wrong, this is just article #7 in the past few days that I have wanted to show my husband about parenting that I realized wasn’t directed towards him.

  4. Melissa  

    Thanks for this, Lyndsay. I didn’t realize I was a feminist until after I became a mother and much of the above highlights behaviors that just do not come naturally for me, no matter how much I believe they’re important. I learn so much from all you write with regard to feminism and feminist mothering. Much to think about here!

    • Phoebe

      Thank you for this article…I am always wanting support in making sure I am raising two feminist boys.

  5. tree peters  

    this is really helpful. I’m sharing it with my husband.

  6. Amy

    Love this! I’ve been sharing it on Pinterest, but forgot to comment! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Another one I think is important, that I use a lot with my son, is showing small children the beauty and wonder of pregnancy and birth from infancy. My son is 2 1/2 and begs for birth and pregnant lady videos on the iPad. I love that! I want him to realize on a deep level that birthing is a wonderful aspect of the feminine genius.

    I confess I don’t entirely understand #19. I don’t see why supporting formula feeding is feminist. Unless you meant formula feeding as a last choice?

    Anktangle’s recent post on consent is SO IMPORTANT, I’m sure you’ve already seen it, and it gels totally with your #7, but I figured linking to it could help other readers – http://www.etsy.com/listing/129359692/vintage-dressing-gown-for-the-retro?ref=shop_home_active


    • Rachel

      It’s part of supporting other women without judgement. All women go through some process by which they decide how they will feed their children. As feminists, it is our responsibility to accept their process and decision with out question, just as we do with their careers, and support them as our sisters.

  7. Amanda Krueger

    Good tips. My tip is to leave the parenthases off of “and men” next time. No need for it. Thanks for all of you thinking and writing. ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. JusyMine

    How about instead of focusing on feminism, we simply focus on teaching equality, balance and boundaries to our children. Focusing and making a point to teach feminism is unbalanced and leans in one direction, IMHO. Why does everything have to be extreme?

    • Rachel

      Teaching feminism is not “extreme.” It is doing exactly what you’re talking about, teaching that all people are equal and valuable.

  9. John

    ” instilling a sense of awareness in a child that all women are people” not that all people are equal? Just women huh
    Oh and thanks for #5 I guess men should be THANKFUL that you’ll ALLOW us to be part of the parenting process. Because equality means your only allowed to do something if someone else lets you right? Equality means that men have the right to do everything on your list. Sounds like your the one who should start unpacking their “privilege”

    • Audrey

      100% with you on this John. (and i’m a woman, and a feminist, this article is not about feminism in my opinion).

  10. Manders

    OMG the ignorant comments. Wonderful article with some sound advice ๐Ÿ™‚

  11. Audrey

    Hi! Even if i like the bottom line of this article, i wonder about a few things.
    It’s seems a bit like carebears world here.
    I think it’s of our responsability (as women and men) also to teach kids than the world can be unfair and there can be evil people, women or men. Not all Women are angels please.
    Here is a nice list for you to look at if you have any doubts: http://listverse.com/2012/10/30/10-female-concentration-camp-guards/

    And also the first phrase ??? “Raising a feminist child isnโ€™t difficult. It means committing to instilling a sense of awareness in a child that all women are people.” Really ? Like someone have any doubts about it ??? Please.