E-Mail '21 Ways to Raise a Feminist Child' To A Friend Email a copy of '21 Ways to Raise a Feminist Child' to a friend * Required Field Your Name: * Your E-Mail: * Your Remark: Friend's Name: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Friend's E-Mail: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Image Verification: * Loading ... 16 Responses to 21 Ways to Raise a Feminist Child Mary March 29, 2013 at 6:41 pm How about #22: don’t direct your essays about parenting solely to a female readership through use of “love yourself…because your children need to see a woman who respects herself.” Just nitpicking? Probably. But my husband is just as invested as raising a feminist child as I am, and this article seems mostly directed towards women. Lyndsay hisveganmama March 29, 2013 at 6:51 pm Hi Mary, Perhaps reread the article? I am very inclusive in regards to male parents as in honouring them and their role can we break down the gender binaries that oppress many women. But as a mother, I write as a woman. Audrey April 19, 2014 at 6:04 pm Mary, maybe here is a key you could consider: Feminism is about equality in rights beetween men and women (at least in my opinion). Your “i write as a woman” make me wonder how dichotomize is your way of thinking. If you were thinking equality about men and women you wouldn’t make a huge emphasis about “writting as a woman” or you wouldn’t talk about JUST women which is what you do. You would write as “a human beeing”, or as ” a parent”. Here is your signature in my opinion that you are not (or at least not a real) feminist. Call yourself a women activist, matriarcal society prayer, or whatever you want (which would be also fine by the way you have the right to emphasise on women as you want, and that could be your opinion that a matriarcal society is better), but as a feminist, i don’t rely on what you say here. I don’t think you are a feminist. Your emphasis all the way in the article is more about being a woman than a feminist, all about valorising women (versus who?), body image and so on… Mary March 30, 2013 at 7:12 am Perhaps a better title would have been 21 ways for moms to raise a feminist child? You talk about honouring fathers, but the article is addressed to mothers. I think it’s awesome, don’t get me wrong, this is just article #7 in the past few days that I have wanted to show my husband about parenting that I realized wasn’t directed towards him. Melissa vibrantwanderer March 30, 2013 at 11:04 pm Thanks for this, Lyndsay. I didn’t realize I was a feminist until after I became a mother and much of the above highlights behaviors that just do not come naturally for me, no matter how much I believe they’re important. I learn so much from all you write with regard to feminism and feminist mothering. Much to think about here! Phoebe April 6, 2013 at 12:42 pm Thank you for this article…I am always wanting support in making sure I am raising two feminist boys. tree peters momgrooves April 8, 2013 at 2:41 pm this is really helpful. I’m sharing it with my husband. Amy April 15, 2013 at 8:12 am Love this! I’ve been sharing it on Pinterest, but forgot to comment! 🙂 Another one I think is important, that I use a lot with my son, is showing small children the beauty and wonder of pregnancy and birth from infancy. My son is 2 1/2 and begs for birth and pregnant lady videos on the iPad. I love that! I want him to realize on a deep level that birthing is a wonderful aspect of the feminine genius. I confess I don’t entirely understand #19. I don’t see why supporting formula feeding is feminist. Unless you meant formula feeding as a last choice? Anktangle’s recent post on consent is SO IMPORTANT, I’m sure you’ve already seen it, and it gels totally with your #7, but I figured linking to it could help other readers – http://www.etsy.com/listing/129359692/vintage-dressing-gown-for-the-retro?ref=shop_home_active Pax Amy Rachel October 18, 2013 at 5:10 pm It’s part of supporting other women without judgement. All women go through some process by which they decide how they will feed their children. As feminists, it is our responsibility to accept their process and decision with out question, just as we do with their careers, and support them as our sisters. Amanda Krueger July 12, 2013 at 2:04 am Good tips. My tip is to leave the parenthases off of “and men” next time. No need for it. Thanks for all of you thinking and writing. 🙂 JusyMine July 13, 2013 at 8:45 pm How about instead of focusing on feminism, we simply focus on teaching equality, balance and boundaries to our children. Focusing and making a point to teach feminism is unbalanced and leans in one direction, IMHO. Why does everything have to be extreme? Rachel October 18, 2013 at 5:15 pm Teaching feminism is not “extreme.” It is doing exactly what you’re talking about, teaching that all people are equal and valuable. John February 11, 2014 at 11:41 pm ” instilling a sense of awareness in a child that all women are people” not that all people are equal? Just women huh Oh and thanks for #5 I guess men should be THANKFUL that you’ll ALLOW us to be part of the parenting process. Because equality means your only allowed to do something if someone else lets you right? Equality means that men have the right to do everything on your list. Sounds like your the one who should start unpacking their “privilege” Audrey April 19, 2014 at 6:11 pm 100% with you on this John. (and i’m a woman, and a feminist, this article is not about feminism in my opinion). Manders April 7, 2014 at 10:01 am OMG the ignorant comments. Wonderful article with some sound advice 🙂 Audrey April 19, 2014 at 5:52 pm Hi! Even if i like the bottom line of this article, i wonder about a few things. It’s seems a bit like carebears world here. I think it’s of our responsability (as women and men) also to teach kids than the world can be unfair and there can be evil people, women or men. Not all Women are angels please. Here is a nice list for you to look at if you have any doubts: http://listverse.com/2012/10/30/10-female-concentration-camp-guards/ And also the first phrase ??? “Raising a feminist child isn’t difficult. It means committing to instilling a sense of awareness in a child that all women are people.” Really ? Like someone have any doubts about it ??? Please.