6 Tips on Managing Screen Time for Tots

Written by Moorea on February 8th, 2013

Balance, Consistent Care, Gentle Discipline, Natural Learning
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As a nanny and teacher I worked for 17 years with all different sorts of parents, but usually households were either No TV or Constant TV. I hardly ever saw a middle ground. I think that it is because, like sugar, the screen is a slippery slope.

Before becoming a parent, my preference was that my child didn’t see a television (or iPad or iPhone) screen until at least 7 years old. For my family it started so innocently. We had to distract her just long enough to get the tangles out of her very curly hair. Then two things happened: Other family members wanted to share the joy they found in technology with my daughter, and I started a second business and became a work-at-home mom with not enough childcare and occasional sudden moments of needing to be able to make a phone call.
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There are all sorts of ways to negotiate and regulate screen time with older children — charts, cards, offering other super-fun activities — and there is even an app to manage screen time on mobile devices. For older children, doctors often advise that parents can be more lenient on tech with a child who does well in school and plays frequently with others. But what about toddlers? I’d like to pretend they aren’t getting screen time, but let’s face it, they are.

1) Is It Truly Educational? Limit the type of programming and stick to it. One option is to cancel cable or stick to PBS Kids and, within that, research the shows that you approve of and think are educational and age-appropriate. You may also ask yourself if the programming is not challenging your youngster but merely entertaining him. Not every show that calls itself educational really is. Does it teach a skill? How well? Shows that teach one word of Spanish in an hour don’t really cut it for me. Delete apps that you feel are not educational or which your child has grown out of. Be careful to avoid fast-paced cartoons as they are proven to negatively affect the brain and disturb the ability to concentrate.

2) Is It Expressive or Intuitive? Expressive art on an application lacks severely in the sensory aspect, but I still consider graphic design artists artists. Intuitive applications teach a skill and the skill gets harder as a child masters the skill at hand. To know if a show is educational, expressive, or intuitive, we might watch it or play it ourselves the first couple of times with our child. Research shows that children learn better from these applications when a parent interacts with them, but I will not belabor the point because I know that most of us are using the screen as a way to have a break/wash a dish. I kept the quizzing apps that progress with the child and the art apps mostly for the airplane rides.

3) Use Appropriate Time Limits. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that children under 2 have no screen time at all and for children between 2 and 3 years of age to have between 30 and 60 minutes at the maximum. But parents are confused by this, and most kids are already having screen time before 2 (especially with older siblings).

I coach parents to use my 10-minute rule: Ten minutes per ever year of life. An 18-month-old would get no more than 18 minutes per day (probably on an interactive app, because shows are longer than 18 minutes). A 2-year-old can have up to 20 minutes a day on an app or 20-minute show on Hulu (no commercials or you can skip commercials or turn it off and sing a song together for a few minutes). A 3-year-old watches one full 30-minute show per day or less.

Always tell your child before a program or app starts what the plan is and what the rules are. Saying “20 minutes” to a toddler makes less sense than “one IPad show.”

Alternately, we can be clear with our little ones about screen time being unique to a certain situation or time of day — and then we must stay consistent with our rule. Only at Grandma’s house, only after lunch — at my house we began screen time because of a need to tame curly hair, hence “only after bath.”

4.) Plan a Transitional Activity: The main reason I wish my own child’s screen time had never started? The “taking it away” part of setting a time limit. Tell the child before they begin screen time what they can expect to come after. “Then we will read stories together.” Or, “then, I will find you a snack!” Also, try to check in as your child is nearing the end of screen time with a “Show is almost done, then we eat…” reminder message.

5.) Detox from Screen Time: Spend an entire vacation together without screen time. Plan an entire weekend full of activities without screen time. Plan a day of the week that is screen-free. Always have a way to go back to what it is like to be a family together without the crutch of screen time “for parental work emergencies/migraine…, etc” since a parental emergency is quite sure to come up every single day (understanding wink!).

6.) Avoid Mixing Food and Screen: It can be so tempting to spoon-feed a picky toddler while they are mesmerized by the screen, but don’t! We want toddlers to learn how to feed themselves, to pay attention to the process of eating, and to recognize when they are full. For adults, we know that television watching increases the risk of obesity and that mixing television and food further increases the risk.

As a child, I had a mom who worked in tech, and therefore I had earlier access to computers than most people my age, and I lived in a house of limitless TV. I’ve finally gotten clear with myself that I don’t think it ruined my brain and the only place I think it hurt was in body image. But I still have to balance the fact that it didn’t ruin my brain with the wealth of knowledge and studies that now say that excessive screen time is harmful for youngsters.

Screen and School?  I have seen that tons of preschools and kindergartens are now using video and computers as teaching aids. I own and direct a preschool, and I just don’t agree with screen time in a learning environment for very young children — most children are getting plenty of screen time at home. We go to preschool to practice social interaction, and I feel that screen time is definitely the opposite of social. I prefer teachers — real human beings — to teach our children.

Nobody is a bad parent for letting a 1-year-old play with an iPhone. And yet, we can effectively limit and monitor screen time for our children in a smart way and avoid extremes. If we do so with consistent boundaries, our children will grow up seeing the screen just as a learning tool and and not as best friend.

 

 

About The Author: Moorea

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Moorea Malatt is the founder of Savvy Parenting Support (and MamaLady blog), an online resource for gentle and naturally-minded early parenting challenges. Moorea is an expert and Parent Educator in gentle (and early) potty learning, gentle sleep learning and gentle discipline. She authors online learning programs, books and blogs, leads sold-out workshops and provides private phone consults. Moorea has 20 years of experience with parents and young children as a preschool teacher, certified postpartum doula, infant nanny and mom. Moorea also wrote an album of songs called, “Whip It Out: Songs for Breastfeeding.” Moorea continues to study the behavioral sciences and anthropology. She is a bit of a flop as a dinner chef loves a good sugar-free “paleo” baking experiment! http://www.facebook.com/Savvyparentingsupport

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