E-Mail 'Alternatives to No' To A Friend Email a copy of 'Alternatives to No' to a friend * Required Field Your Name: * Your E-Mail: * Your Remark: Friend's Name: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Friend's E-Mail: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Image Verification: * Loading ... 8 Responses to Alternatives to No Seonaid seonaid_lee October 29, 2010 at 7:57 am I try to be careful about deferring things by saying, “Yes, we can do that in about 3 hours.” My oldest son, though, said to me a few weeks ago, “Oh, why don’t you just say ‘no, we can’t do that for three hours’ “. He said it feels more honest AND when he hears the Yes he gets excited and then he’s disappointed by the delay… but if he hears no first and then the deferment, he gets to feel anticipation last. (He’s very articulate about his feelings.) kelly @kellynaturally kellynaturally November 17, 2010 at 8:45 pm I think its wonderful that he can articulate so well! And you should honor his feelings if he feels it is more honest to say no first, then I’d go with that. Otter LifeofaNewDad November 10, 2010 at 12:33 pm This is great stuff. I have been trying my best to stop being a NO guy. My wife does most of those things and I am trying to follow her example. kelly @kellynaturally kellynaturally November 17, 2010 at 8:46 pm It’s so hard sometimes to NOT say No. And I don’t think you should NEVER say no… just more of: reserve the NO for when you really mean it, so when/if you HAVE to use it, it actually means something. Luschka @ Diary of a First Child lvano November 10, 2010 at 3:01 pm I found this really interesting, because it’s where we’re at at the moment. We seem to spend SO MUCH of our day saying “No, Ky” and it really bothers me. There’s definitely stuff in here I’m going to try to implement – especially the just putting things out of reach/away option! So simple and yet so effective! kelly @kellynaturally kellynaturally November 17, 2010 at 8:48 pm Absolutely! An environment that is kid-friendly is SO important for their ability to learn & grow. Especially as babies & toddlers who really don’t have self-control/impulse control – its frustrating for them not to be able to touch something – and frustrating for you to constantly be saying no – so sometimes its just better to put things away – temporarily – until they are big enough to learn how to touch “correctly”. Semi-crunchy Mama crunchymamato2 November 12, 2010 at 9:48 pm What a great list. We’ve been struggling here a bit lately and I’m going to start implementing these ideas right away. kelly @kellynaturally kellynaturally November 17, 2010 at 8:50 pm Thanks! I hope you are able to find some ideas that work for you!!