E-Mail 'An Unexpected Formula-Fed Attachment' To A Friend Email a copy of 'An Unexpected Formula-Fed Attachment' to a friend * Required Field Your Name: * Your E-Mail: * Your Remark: Friend's Name: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Friend's E-Mail: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Image Verification: * Loading ... 7 Responses to An Unexpected Formula-Fed Attachment Kellie August 5, 2013 at 12:44 pm Kyle, I had such a similar experience with adding Walter to our family. The trauma of struggling to nurse made it difficult to bond right away. It took us some time, but now we are just as close as the other two kids. Thank you so much for sharing your story! Sarah August 5, 2013 at 2:28 pm This is such a sweet story, Kyle. I also had a similar experience this time around with Rose. After having zero problems nursing my other three kids, I expected no problems this time either. It wasn’t that easy because she had lost too much weight at her 24 hour check-up and by day two my nipples were cracked and bleeding and nursing felt like torture and I was constantly stressed about whether or not she was getting enough. We seem to have it figured out by now, but it was a good reminder that every baby is different. Isaac is a lucky boy! (As are all your boys!) Amanda Rose Adams amandaroseadams August 5, 2013 at 4:35 pm This was a lovely post! My daughter had similar issues (threats of hospitalization) with latching, and both of my kids were bottle fed breast milk. I applaud you for being so in tune with each of your boys. That takes confidence and courage. Well done! Love from your fellow b/f carnie! Kelly BecomingCrunchy August 6, 2013 at 6:43 am I’m always happy to see stories like this – not that you were not able to feed your baby the way you initially wanted to – but that in being surprised by the situation, you still made it all about the attachment. It’s so hard sometimes to find that balance between supporting and promoting bf’ing in the AP world but still getting the info. out there that we can have very similar experiences with bottle feeding! Thank you for sharing. Amy forcefreeparent August 6, 2013 at 7:22 am Thank you for this, Kyle. I really appreciate reading your story. 🙂 Kyle August 15, 2013 at 2:46 pm Thank you for those kind comments. I wrote this because I think it’s important to show other moms that it’s o.k. when breastfeeding doesn’t work out. Babies need first and foremost the attachment of a loving family. Sammie January 18, 2014 at 8:08 am I absolutely LOVE reading this! I tried so hard with my son to breastfeed. I pumped, I drank Mother’s Milk, I researched, I put myself on a schedule, I bought shields, I held him and just sobbed while he screamed his little head off…nothing worked so eventually I gave up. I had a very traumatic and quick birth. I had him via “emergency c-section” (and I quote that as I was number 4 for the night, so I am uncertain of the validity of it) at 37.5 weeks. I missed the entire first day of my son’s life..the entire. first. day. It’s amazing all the bonding that you miss in that first day. And then he wouldn’t breastfeed and I had been so against bottles, I didn’t even have a single one in my house. Geez, go figure. But now, at almost 12 weeks, we are so bonded! We co-sleep (in fact, my son hardly sleeps alone), I or his Daddy (with the exception of a grandmother or aunt) always hold him while he eats. In fact, the only time the little man is hardly ever put down is to play a little. He even bathes with us! Lol So yes, I understand the line “It was just a little delayed, but it’s there and it’s fierce” because that is so my life! Thank you for sharing this!