E-Mail 'The Big Bed' To A Friend Email a copy of 'The Big Bed' to a friend * Required Field Your Name: * Your E-Mail: * Your Remark: Friend's Name: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Friend's E-Mail: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Image Verification: * Loading ... 6 Responses to The Big Bed Jenn @ Monkey Butt Junction mbjunction October 18, 2011 at 8:33 am Our son “cosleeps on demand” – always at his option. It is an arrangement we’ve had since he was born, and I wouldn’t change a thing. While we always coslept during those early newborn days, as he was bigger we moved him to his own bed. If he woke and called for us, we’d bring him by us. Some nights he would, other nights he wouldn’t. As he gets bigger, he spends more time in his own bed than ever before, and I miss having him with us. On Sunday night this week he chose us around 3a.m., and we played games of peek a boo under the covers, “where’s my nose” and we spoke to each other in soft whispers until 4. We lost some sleep, sure, but now that he’s almost 2 I know that the nights he’ll choose our bed over his own will become few and few until eventually my big boy won’t sleep by us again. I’ll gladly sacrifice some sleep right now. Oh, and hello, fellow Wisconsin blogger! You live in one of my most favorite small towns. Rachel Wolf lusamama October 18, 2011 at 9:02 am Hi Jenn! Viroqua is my favorite small town of all. 🙂 I love the idea of “cosleeping on demand”. I can’t imagine it any other way. Momma Jorje October 18, 2011 at 8:56 am So beautifully said! Another amazing thing about having them stretch out beside you is getting this sudden, different and shocking reminder of just how very far they do stretch. Our Sasha has coslept with us since Day 1. In recent months, we’ve transitioned her to a crib mattress right next to our own bed. She still winds up in our bed by morning more often than not. Sometimes she asks and sometimes it is just more convenient. I love the idea of our bed being available to our children. I remember having nightmares as a kid and being afraid to wake my parents. How sad is that? Melissa VibrantWanderer October 18, 2011 at 10:26 am This is so perfectly stated. Thank you for the smiles! I do read through sleepy eyes, but they’re not as sleepy as they once were. Many nights I am shocked by how little I am needed, and by how large in the bed is my sleeping companion. I know our nights together are numbered, and it helps to remember this on the difficult ones. Gillian October 18, 2011 at 1:30 pm Love this and couldn’t have written it any better myself. It’s all so very true. I never thought I would be the parent I am, but I wouldn’t change it for anything. Cosleeping for us began out of necessity (for sleep!) and was a no-brainer with the second. I always think to myself it will go so fast and like everything, is temporary. Friends comment on my 14 month old that still nurses 2 or 3 times at night, saying ‘she has the life’ or some such comment, and I just smile and nod. It works for us, and most importantly, for her! Mama Mo @ Attached at the Nip October 18, 2011 at 10:04 pm Thank you for the gentle reminder. I know someday I will sleep well again… it’s a someday I look forward to. Right now both my twin boys awaken at night to nurse. One’s in the big bed with us, one’s on a mattress right next to us. But we all wake up curled close together. I love your line “I chose to have both of my kids know that I was there and I was their mama, no matter what the clock said.” I choose that, too.