E-Mail 'Boundaries, Breastfeeding, and Sleep' To A Friend Email a copy of 'Boundaries, Breastfeeding, and Sleep' to a friend * Required Field Your Name: * Your E-Mail: * Your Remark: Friend's Name: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Friend's E-Mail: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Image Verification: * Loading ... 6 Responses to Boundaries, Breastfeeding, and Sleep Amanda Wiggins January 18, 2011 at 10:08 pm Co-sleeping is DANGEROUS and breastfeeding a toddler is sick! That is not healthy for the child and causes dependency issues and emotional issues! Both my kids slept in their crib after the first week and both were off the bottle by 11 months. Stopped breast feeding @ 2 months. Both are very healthy, happy, smart, and well behaved kids. I hate that new moms stumble across this type of information and think that it’s normal, healthy or even safe.. Dionna codenamemama January 18, 2011 at 10:13 pm Oh Amanda, there is so much misinformation in your statement that I’m just going to reply to you with some links to further reading. (Also, I edited your comment to take out the name calling – no need for that!). Please read some of the links we have on our resources about breastfeeding and nighttime parenting. There is a reason that health organizations the world over recommend breastfeeding at least through the age of one, and that families the world over have coslept for generations – they are both healthy and normal. I do hope that you continue to research your parenting choices and make the best decision that works for your family. Thank you for reading. Amy InnateWholeness January 19, 2011 at 8:42 am Thank you, Dionna, for the informative reply to Ms. Wiggins. Breastfeeding is often looked at as “sick” because of the over-sexualization of the breast. Unfortunately, sex and the body is so laden with shame that a natural, normal act such as breastfeeding is too often judged as one in the same. It’s not that sexuality is even bad, it’s just what we bring to it with the close mindedness of many in our culture. The primary purpose of the breasts is feeding. We are in the class of mammal for this reason. Mothers and babies can make the choice of the length of time to breastfeed based on their relationship. Breast milk is nutritious and protective regardless of the age of the person drinking it. As the links indicate, co-sleeping can be dangerous if a parent doesn’t know how to make it safe. There are many ways to ensure safety and some research indicates it is safer for some babies to sleep near their mother when young than to sleep alone. Thank you, Ms. Wiggins, for allowing us to address questions that may be unspoken for others. You make a valid point by stating that your children have turned out the way you want them to “Both are very healthy, happy, smart, and well behaved kids”. We all want the best for our children. When we realize that is where we’re all coming from in sharing information and opinions – instead of battling against one another – we may have more peace in this world as a whole. Olivia January 20, 2011 at 5:31 pm Hi! I’m the mum with the question. I will post more in a minute but just wanted to say actually my sons are 28 months and 7 months respectively, not 26 months and 5 years. Thank you so much for these incredibly thoughtful and empathic replies. Dionna codenamemama January 21, 2011 at 7:22 am Wow Olivia – I have no idea how I got 26 months and 5 yrs from your email. I don’t think that would have changed our mentors’ answers at all though, since it looked like at least one of them was operating under the assumption that we were referring to a toddler 😉 Sorry about that!! K La February 5, 2011 at 10:17 pm I love the Queen + Twin idea. We have a Queen bed and it just too small for all three of us. We laid the mattress on the floor and set up a small bed for our toddler next to the bed. She starts out there, but usually ends up in between us in the bed. I think adding a twin bed would really help. Thanks for the post! And Amanda, really, how did you find this site? Why are you reading this blog if you are so closed-minded?