E-Mail 'Breastfeeding My Preschooler' To A Friend Email a copy of 'Breastfeeding My Preschooler' to a friend * Required Field Your Name: * Your E-Mail: * Your Remark: Friend's Name: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Friend's E-Mail: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Image Verification: * Loading ... 21 Responses to Breastfeeding My Preschooler violetsouffle violetsouffle September 19, 2011 at 12:57 pm Love love love this! My girl is 3 and we also have stopped nursing in public most of the time. Sometimes I don’t mind it if she really needs it. It still makes me sad if she falls asleep without nursing those times. One thing I love is sharing stories and pics like this with her so she knows it’s normal. She saw the pic on this post& said “I want milkies!” Acacia Moore September 19, 2011 at 2:00 pm What a lovely mama you are! Sometimes I wish my oldest son could have nursed longer. At 4 1/2 y.o. he still loves to hold and cuddle with his “na-nas” especially when his younger brother is nursing. I think it would be a wonderful bonding experience for them both. I didn’t realize that breast milk has so much protein in it. That makes me feel really good because that is the only thing I worry about with my youngest, who still nurses for a majority of his calories. So thanks for that tid bit! Megan September 19, 2011 at 2:29 pm Do you have a link for the info on protein and calories. My son is going through chemo right now and still nursing at 34 months. The doctor thinks that breastmilk has no nutritional value at this point but is just comfort nursing and has even gone as far as to suggest that I wean him so he will eat normal food. Ya, like that’s gonna happen. Jessica September 19, 2011 at 2:43 pm Love love love this article!!! You are one loving mommy. Cass September 19, 2011 at 6:59 pm Loved reading this. So inspiring. Laurie September 19, 2011 at 8:16 pm What a great article! Rings so true with my situation! Thanks fore sharing it Mama Mo @ Attached at the Nip September 19, 2011 at 10:16 pm Thank you for writing about this. If we can’t or don’t see mothers nursing toddlers and preschoolers out in public at least we can see them in communities like this. I appreciate your informative post! I will be nursing my boys until they are done, and I’m hoping it’s not until well after three. Beth September 20, 2011 at 8:51 am Thank you for this! I have a 25 month old nursling and he is at my breast 3 to 4 times during the day and every 2 to 3 hrs at night. I’m exhausted but I know that it won’t last forever and I will cherish every moment. You are a wonderful Mama <3 Gaby@Tmuffin tmuffindotcom September 20, 2011 at 2:17 pm This is a beautiful story and a beautiful photo. I wish we would see more older kids breastfeeding so we could get support from more than our online friends, but thank goodness for the internet! You really describe the ups and downs so well: your children bonding while tandem nursing but your husband feeling helpless at times. I love your daughter’s answers to when she will wean. Write that down. What a sweet story to tell her when she is older. Momma Jorje September 20, 2011 at 11:46 pm Thank you for sharing this success story! I BF my first 6 months and my second for 3½ years. I did get some pressure to wean her, but I followed her lead. (That was 10 years ago!) Now I’m nursing my 3rd (2yo) and am pregnant with the next / last baby. I so hope to tandem. My nurse is all but gone and nursing is very uncomfortable. I worry that she will not latch properly once the milk returns… but am hopeful. So thank you so much for sharing your beautiful success story! Isil smilinglikesuns September 21, 2011 at 2:58 pm Thank you so much for your sweet comments.As I said, other mamas on the internet inspired me and I am so happy to pay it forward. Mamma Jorje,some nurslings continue nursing whatever the conditions are and some wean or cannot latch on. Nature will decide.Best of luck 🙂 Amy McCarty September 22, 2011 at 2:35 pm Wow, this is beautiful! i love to hear about moms nursing older children. I am nursing my 22 month old and am told she is to old. I tell people WE (me and her) will breastfeeding as long as we need 🙂 Thank you for this HUGE inspiration! tulay September 26, 2011 at 6:56 am dear isil, i share all your enthusiasm and frustration! thank you for sharing it all with us. i still breastfeed my three year old son. some days (and nights) he wants to be breastfed almost all the time, some days a lot less. as mothers we are there to observe what they really need sensibly, not to be dictators of society. oh, by the way, me and my husband are not the most social people in the world but our son is a very confident, happy and communicative boy with incredible language skills. there is never too much of love. thanks again. Hannah September 29, 2011 at 4:49 am My story is identical to yours, I still breastfeed my son at bedtime and he’s turning 5 in a few weeks and is at school now! He’s incredibly independent and settled into school easily despite never even going to pre-school and not knowing any of the other children well. Because I’m conscious of how other people would react I’ve asked him to only talk about breastfeeding within our family. I just say that other people wouldn’t understand. I wish I could be more open but sadly in the rural community where we live people thing I’m slightly odd for feeding my 2 year-old, never mind him! I understand it seems strange in the social context to most people but it feels perfectly normal to us both in the context of our relationship. It really is a short cut to connection for us. After the night-time feed he often tells me things that are upsetting him or his secret wishes and stories he didn’t tell me during the day. So, I am happy to keep feeding until he’s had enough of it 🙂 Kimberly October 10, 2011 at 7:56 pm Thank you all so so very much for your posts – I am actually on-line on Canadian Thanksgiving searching for mom’s who still nurse their Preschoolers. I love nursing – he loves nursing, it is a great relationship. Two -three times a day (morning very important, sometimes in the afternoon, and then at night. When others have comments about his nursing it hurts him so much…he hears his greatgrandma, grandma, aunt, etc…make really unkind comments and he hears the conversations about WHEN HE should stop nursing and it upsets him and hurts me and makes us both feel on the defensive. I thought that he would wean on his own at a year, then two and then three….he’s now 3 1/2 yrs and does not want to stop and I don’t blame him – it is so relaxing for him and so healthy. Thank you for helping me to feel normal when so many people are putting so much presure on the both of us to stop…HOW much time in the past 3yrs have been spent wondering how to wean and when to wean because of other peoples uneducated opinions….I wish I could take away every conversation I have ever had with him about stoping nursing and remove that stress, possibly fear from his life. The great news is that daddy really seriously approves and is 100% on our side which is a blessing! Thank you everyone and keep up the great work! Kimberly October 17, 2011 at 6:14 pm Ok, feeling much more positive now! I have spent more time justifying our continued nursing relationship than enjoying the experience. Thanks for letting me vent – we need more support for long term nursers!!!!! Especially nutritional facts. Andrea G organicmommaof4 November 12, 2011 at 9:13 am This is oh so familiar! I have been pregnant and/or breastfeeding nonstop for over 10 years (I have 4 kids). Currently I am breastfeeding my 2 year old and almost 5 year old. The preschooler only nurses at bedtime because my baby gets possessive and nursing the older child became awful as the baby would cry and pull her sister’s hair. I had to wean the older one down to nighttime only for *MY* sanity. This may sound selfish, but how is nursing productive when it is stressful to the 3 participants? Anyway, Hubby takes the baby at bedtime so Big Sister can get “Mimi time.” It is so much more peaceful and relaxing this way. Frankly, I often get frustrated with breastfeeding my preschooler because you NEVER hear of others who breastfeed their older child and when you do the older child is perceived as spoiled and demanding; neither are true for my sweet natured preschooler. I keep talking about weaning because of the social stigma. It makes her cry in a very weepy sort of way so I know she isn’t ready even though I am. Thank you for this. I will back off on the weaning talk and realize I am not alone in this rarely talked about adventure. Kimberly November 12, 2011 at 12:25 pm You hit the nail on the head…you ‘keep talking about weaning because of the social stigma’. That is exactly it…it is the only reason I discuss it too! It is so unfair and so hurtful. And the ‘spoiled and demanding’ preception is absolutely true….the child is somehow bad, pocessive, the mom is trying to control the child, ahhhhhhh. Oh well – Keep up the good work – you do it for the good days! we are all rooting for you! Steve McPhail April 24, 2013 at 12:24 pm As a very strong supporter of extended breastfeeding; I honestly believe that you should continue breastfeeding your preschooler for as long as she feels the need to nurse. Besides, What better way to bond with your preschooler than through breastfeeding! If other people are giving you strange looks or making rude comments such as.. Are you still breastfeeding her? or Isn’t she a little too old to still be breastfeeding? Just kindly respond and say… I’m only giving her the very best nourishment in all the world… my breastmilk! Besides, she’s your daughter and you should have every right to continue breastfeeding her until she’s fully ready to be weaned from your breast. Happy extended breastfeeding!! Shruti March 4, 2015 at 3:25 pm I am so happy to read such blogs. Every paediatrician i have seen till now (3 years) has said stop stop stop! Parents, in laws and even hubby believe it is just wrong to do it at 3 years. my daughter has very very poor weight gain…..her current paed (she is very comfortable with him) has told me her weight issues are because i still nurse! I am so worried about it, that I am seriously thinking its time to stop! It is blogs like this that help me go on…. but if it is affecting my baby, then i need to face that the time has come to stop! Jen December 13, 2015 at 10:33 pm Shruti, I think your pediatrician is under the false impression that weaning will result in a greater caloric consumption. Not the case! Breastmilk is relatively high in fat – of the best kind. I have a 91cm 11kg 3.5yr old . I was given the same professional “advice” when she was 12 months. I’m so glad I researched and then ignored!