The Eco-Mom Army: When the Stakes Are Too High

I’ve spent the last couple of weeks trying to map out the “eco-mom” space in an attempt to understand who’s who in the online green mommy world. I have visited and reviewed dozens of green mommy blogs. I’m at the point where I’m so immersed that I’m starting to believe that every mom out there is trying to go green.

And why not? Moms have the best reason ever to save the planet. Our children. Let’s face it. The stakes are too high to risk this one.

Many moms control household decisions and day-to-day spending. So, if we all want to go green and we have the means to go green, why is the world not yet green? I have a few thoughts on why we’ve yet to reverse global warming. But don’t worry, there is a silver lining.

Change is hard. We can’t just become something different overnight. It takes time to figure out new balances. This is certainly what I’m finding. One small change is easy. Once they start adding up, all of a sudden you’re living someone else’s life. And green is new. It’s not the way we were taught to live, which makes it even harder.

Parental resistance. Our parents’ generation is trying to learn this new way just like us. And they’ve had much more practice at the old way, so there’s more for them to let go. I personally find things like recycling, composting, avoiding plastic and breastfeeding difficult to explain to my parents without making them feel judged. My parents are wonderful. They always did what was thought best for us at the time, but, times and thoughts both change. Currently, global warming and the resulting extinction of the human race is not thought best. Give them time and credit – they’ll come around.

Learning curve. The green mommy sites out there are really a testament to our appetite for knowledge. This gives me great hope. Once we know what to change, we will. I know that I am personally in this category. Carl and I are trying to come up the learning curve quickly, but there is certainly a lot to change.

Fear of the unknown. Organizational change is Carl’s field of study. He always tells me that people don’t mind changing, they mind the unknown after the change.1 And what will life be like after we’re all green? I have no idea. But at least we might be around to find out.

Doubt. You know what makes changing extra hard for me? Wondering in the back of my mind if I’m doing it all for nothing. Perhaps it doesn’t matter what we do. Perhaps everything is going to be alright anyway. Perhaps it’s not and that’s inevitable. We can never really be sure of anything. I think that’s partly what makes life joyful. The wonder of choice.

So, what is needed to overcome these hurdles?

I read an amazing statement on Tiny Buddha yesterday in a blog about knowing your path.2 It said “Trust in our truth. Faith in ourselves. And a little bit of surrender.” I immediately wrote this on my whiteboard as a sort of reminder to keep moving forward.

I feel strongly that climbing this learning curve one day at a time and doing my best to do my part is what’s right and good. I’m just going to have to trust that. And I’m clearly not alone. You are all out there. Helping me. Informing me. Supporting me.

I’m positively overwhelmed by the sheer volume of our army. Good work, eco-moms. Keep marching. We’re about to win a battle not for religion or country, but for humanity.

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Andrea Curry Gosselin is the author of Tales of Goodness. Andrea is a stay-at-home mom of two perfect children (ha!) ages nine months and three years. Natural parenting is just what feels right for her. She learned breastfeeding, attachment parenting, co-sleeping and positive discipline largely through trial and error. And a healthy dose of Dr. Sears. She believes that babies generally know best. Except when mom knows best. She and her husband Carl have put their careers as consultants temporarily on hold in order to pursue their own little green revolution – attempting to spend, consume and live responsibly while balancing the needs of two little ones and a typical suburban life. She writes about how to live green through one of the most “consumption-happy” stages of life.

  1. Sorry hun, I know I’m para-phrasing, but you get the point.
  2. Don’t ask – it’s meditation week on our Tales of Goodness blog and I’ve become temporarily surreal.

3 Responses to The Eco-Mom Army: When the Stakes Are Too High

  1. Impossible Mom

    Im a pretty new bloggy! And I also have been searching for other mom bloggers who are like minded. I am haven’t considered myself a green mom {just yet} although I love supporting the earth and a clean environment. I really come at it from a slightly different perspective {inspired by Native American Traditions}. I’m more of a Mother Nature Mama-a little more into the spiritual side of oneness and respect for the earth and treating this as if they have a soul themselves. I do r believe any living thing is more important than another and that is my drive for becoming so called green and Eco friendly! I sure would love to find other moms out there! I started a FB page {Mother Nature Mamas} in hopes of connecting and relating w others-but I’m a new bloggy-and just haven’t had much success! Oh well! Glad I found this tid-bit! Tell me what drives and inspires you to be green? Do you think you will ever connect being green to a deeper spiritual reason?

  2. Impossible Mom

    Aww. Typo above.

    * I don’t believe…

  3. Andrea  

    Hi Impossible Mom. Sorry for the very long reply time – just saw your reply now. What drives me to be green? Well, I’ve always wanted to be green, but my children inspired a stronger drive to protect the Earth. As you say, a sort of “mother nature” role.

    Will I ever connect it to deeper spiritual reason? Every day. I really believe the golden rule should apply to all things – not just all people. I try hard to respect all things – on both a practical and a spiritual level. Mind you, I often fall short. I’m just learning too. But it’s a wonderfully rewarding journey.

    Thanks so much for your comments. If you’re still looking for groups with whom to connect, ping me on ToG.

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