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10 Responses to How Not to Embarrass Your Children

  1. Janine  

    FOR REAL. Thank you for this post! I am racking my brain to see how guilty of this I am and I think I come out OK. My “baby poop” status updates stopped after a few months and I started considering my words more carefully. Talking about your newborn is one thing but I majorly cringe when someone posts about their constipated preschooler on Twitter. The Internet is totally forever.

    I will say that I disagree about the wearing the bra bit, so long as my child was happy in the picture. That doesn’t really seem embarrassing to me, which I guess is where it gets tricky and subjective, which is part of your point I guess. It’s hard to draw the line.

    • Nada  

      Hi Janine,

      Thanks for your comment. I just think it’s a matter of mutual respect. Some people are certainly more open than I am, and sometimes within the same family, some people are more open. My husband is more modest than I am. But I think it’s important to respect how our children might feel as they grow up. Thanks for your thoughts!

  2. Momma Jorje

    My trouble here is that even with most TMI type topics, I don’t mind what people know about me. I don’t know yet, though, how private my daughter will be. My older daughter is amused by her amusing poop stories from when she was little, she’s heard them so many times. They’re family favorites! My youngest is a nudist (like Mommy!), something that makes me proud – not embarrassed!

    So I think there is a fine line and it isn’t necessarily the same between one family and the next.

    Great post, though. I can appreciate the idea and there are certainly things I don’t post about my teenager because I know she wouldn’t appreciate it.

    • Nada  

      Hi Jorje,

      Oh I agree, the line is different in every household. I just feel uncomfortable when I see some comments in my Twitter feed. There is a fine line between what is funny and what is embarassing. Each person’s line is drawn. I just think it’s important to protect our children, as we are never sure where their line is until they’re old enough to say so. 🙂

      • Momma Jorje

        Ah, I remember someone telling me about their in-laws pointing and laughing at their small child over something (like wetting their pants or something). Absolutely horrid behavior!!

        People so easily forget that children are small human beings. They are individuals, not things we own.

  3. teresa  

    This is really timely for me. I just had a wake up call of my own. I posted a photo of my 4 1/2 year old daughter and when she saw it, she wasn’t pleased even seeing it on the computer. She didn’t know it was on the internet.
    She’s gotten really private lately and I felt like I’d missed something important. I am thinking about it all so much more now. I have to even go back and see what’s already “out there.” I agree that it’s important. I was still thinking of her as the little baby “I” had, that “I” was raising, etc… when she’s been a whole person all her own the whole time.
    Now… can we talk about how she is squashing my personality claiming that every thing I do that is fun or silly or in song embarrasses *her*?!!! Geez, can’t a mommy get a break? I didn’t think this would start for years.

  4. Amy  

    I agree and I thank you for highlighting such an important piece of relating about our children.

    I often think before I share *any* information about my children because I feel it is my responsibility to see them in their highest, truest light … not express some momentary frustration about what may or may not be going the way I’d like as a parent.

    Appreciate the reminders. 🙂

  5. Christina

    I actually am bookmarking this one to possibly share with my parents if I can find the right way to do it. It’s not just situational discomfort the child experiences but a whole life time of affected self-esteem. When I was a little late for my potty training graduation, my dad used to shove a camera in my face and click away while he captured my shame- and I had to clean the mess too. Thanks for the post.

  6. Michelle  

    Thought provoking, logical words. I sometimes wonder what goes through parents’ heads. We’ve probably all smiled inwardly at things our children have done but to share these things with other people is over-stepping the mark, in my book.

  7. melissa aka equidae

    Totally agree I dont post much about my children and when I do I try to check my words. IT can be very humiliating if one had to see it one day