Giveaway and Online Book Discussion: Nonviolent Communication $42 ARV {8.22; US/Can} CLOSED

This is a joint giveaway with Code Name: Mama and Natural Parents Network. You may enter at one site only. Please find the section marked “Win it!” for the mandatory main entry and optional bonus entries.

For our third installment of the Code Name: Mama Online Book Discussion Group, we will be reading and discussing Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. Anyone and everyone is invited to participate, all you need is a copy of the book (borrowed or bought), an hour or so each week to read, and about 20-30 minutes to join in the discussion (see below for details). Your co-facilitators for this book discussion are Dionna of Code Name: Mama and Amy of Peace 4 Parents.

Please read to the end, because you will find questions to consider for our first discussion on Monday, August 1, plus you’ll find a coupon code plus rules and entry details for a giveaway of your own copy of Nonviolent Communication and its accompanying Workbook, a $42 value!

From our reviewer, Dionna from Code Name: Mama:

Nonviolent Communication

Nonviolent communication {NVC} “guides us in reframing how we express ourselves and hear others. Instead of habitual, automatic reactions, our words become conscious responses based firmly on awareness of what we are perceiving, feeling, and wanting. We are led to express ourselves with honesty and clarity, while simultaneously paying others a respectful and empathic attention. In any exchange, we come to hear our own deeper needs and those of others.”1

In Nonviolent Communication, you will learn how to minimize resistance, defensiveness, and violent reactions – both in yourself (by learning how to receive the communication of others) and in others (by learning how to communicate in a compassionate way). “NVC fosters respect, attentiveness, and empathy and engenders a mutual desire to give from the heart.”2 Rosenberg takes us through a four step process: observing without evaluating, stating how we feel based on our observations, identifying the needs underlying our feelings, and making a specific request.

“Most of us grew up speaking a language that encourages us to label, compare, demand, and pronounce judgments rather than to be aware of what we are feeling and needing.”3 If you would like to replace life-alienating communicating habits with compassionate, trust-building communication skills, I hope you will join us for this discussion. NVC can radically transform relationships between parents and children, between partners, and it can positively affect your relationships outside the home – with friends, coworkers, even strangers.

How Our Book Discussion Will Work

1) Scheduled reading/discussions: We’ll read the book in three manageable chunks – I know how precious your spare time is as busy parents! Here is our schedule for Nonviolent Communication:

  • Monday, August 1: Our first post/online discussion will start. Before August 1, please read Chapters 1-5 of Nonviolent Communication {NVC}, that’s 66 pages. You will see a few questions at the end of this post – please keep those in mind as you read, and jot down some thoughts/reactions for each question to share with the group. We will probably have the bulk of our discussion in the comments of each post, but I would encourage you to also visit the ongoing thread I’ll create in the Natural Parents Network Forums for more orderly and involved conversations.
  • Monday, August 8: We will discuss Chapters 6-9. Questions for August 8 will be posted on August 1.
  • Monday, August 15: We will discuss Chapters 10-13. Questions for August 15 will be posted on August 8.
  • Monday, August 22: We will offer a free conference call to wrap up our book discussion. All participants will be welcome to join us. (Time TBA; Date subject to change)

2) How to Participate in Discussions: Discussions will take place here on Code Name: Mama in the comments of each post. You may also want to expand on discussions using the Natural Parents Network Forums. Please take a minute to sign up for the forums and check them out. You will see a subfolder specifically dedicated to “Online Book Discussions” located in “Books and More,” that’s where we can chat further.

For each of the three discussions, I will post a short summary of our reading and a full list of questions, ask for your thoughts and feedback, and present an abbreviated list of questions for the next week.

A Short List of Questions to Consider While You’re Reading Chapters 1-5

  1. Can you think of a specific instance from your own life where you have given from the heart? Tell us about that instance and how it made you felt (or how it makes you feel remembering it).
  2. Thinking of the four forms of life-alienating communication (a. Diagnosis, judgment, analysis, criticism, comparison; b. Denial of responsibility; c. Demand; d. “Deserve”-oriented language), identify an instance of each category in your own speech – either sometime this week or in your recent past. Write down the exact words used.
  3. Write a dialogue (about 6-8 lines) between two people that is not going well. It could be fictional or from your own life. We will discuss one or two of your dialogues in the comments, so be sure to share!
  4. Write down three observations about yourself. Write down three evaluations about yourself (try to make them about different subjects than the first three things you wrote). Try this exercise with other situations – your thoughts about parenting, your relationship with your partner, or work, for example.
  5. How do you know what you are feeling at any given moment? Where do you go to look? At some point this week, set a watch or timer to beep every 30 minutes. For two hours, record what you are feeling the moment the beeping sounds. Carefully observe and record your feelings.
  6. How can we make it easier for other people to respond with compassion to what we want or are asking for?


You can purchase Nonviolent Communication on Amazon4 ($11.12 new plus free shipping for Prime customers!), straight from PuddleDancer Press ($13.95, or as low as $9.95 if you buy multiple books), or check into one of your locally owned/independent book sellers.

Code Name: Mama and Natural Parents Network readers will receive a 20% discount on any order through PuddleDancer Press from now through the end of August, 2011. This is 20% off in addition to any bulk order discount you are eligible to receive. After you have clicked on the “Checkout” button, enter codemama in the coupon code box (underneath the credit card information). PuddleDancer strongly recommends a traceable shipping method such as USPS Priority Mail or UPS Ground for any order.


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Dionna, the reviewer of Nonviolent Communication, blogs about natural parenting at Code Name: Mama and is also the cofounder of Natural Parents Network and

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72 Responses to Giveaway and Online Book Discussion: Nonviolent Communication $42 ARV {8.22; US/Can} CLOSED

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  20. Mrs. Smitty

    I think NVC would be great for our household. My husband and I are very open with each other (without a thought as to how we come across most of the time) and we really do need to find a different form of communication as it’s not healthy and we don’t want to teach our children the same behavior.