Giveaway: Parenting for Peace – $38 ARV {7.23 Worldwide} CLOSED

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This is a joint giveaway between Code Name: Mama and Natural Parents Network. You may enter at one site only. Please find the section marked “Win it!” for the mandatory entry and optional bonus entries.

This is a giveaway of two copies of Parenting for Peace by Marcy Axness. Two readers will win one copy each, both valued at $18.95 for a total ARV of $37.90!

From our reviewer, Dionna at Code Name: Mama:

About Parenting for Peace

I first heard about Marcy Axness’s book, Parenting for Peace, on a podcast from Amber at Strocel.com. I was so intrigued by what I heard that I knew I had to read the whole book.

Parenting for Peace presents a set of principles that parents (current and expecting) can adopt and adapt to their families to raise the next generation of peacemakers. The principles are:

Presence
Awareness
Rhythm
Example
Nurturance
Trust
Simplicity

Axness applies these seven principles to seven different “steps” of our parenting lives, from cultivating a fertile mind and body to shepherding our children into the world. Through scientific research and data from experts in diverse fields, Axness shares a road map for how to raise a peacemaker.

What is a peacemaker? It is someone who is “[v]itally engaged in both inner and outer life, imbued with comprehensive social intelligence, . . . [who has] intellectual and emotional flexibility, robust imagination and the ability to devise innovative solutions to complex puzzles.” A peacemaker is resilient and feels safe.1 The seven steps and principles “foster the optimal development of [the brain] and support the flourishing of the whole child – body and mind.”2

What I love most about this book is that Axness not only delves deep into some fascinating research about how we are wired (from conception on) and what parenting techniques are helpful (or not), but she also gives concrete examples of positive parenting techniques and practices that can have far-reaching effects.

Here are just a few of the techniques:

Presence:

“[W]hatever you put your attention on, you get more of. When we’re upset, we’re choosing to be present to that which we don’t want. When we get annoyed or angry with our children the same thing happens — we’re being present to everything we don’t want, rather than standing in that loving, authoritative center and focusing on what we do want (and calmly expect) from our child.”3

Instead of focusing on any anger you may be feeling, Axness encourages parents to find something they can appreciate. “Think of something that pulls up the ‘appreciation’ feeling from your mental file cabinet, and immerse yourself in that feeling now: . . . . This is especially helpful when you’re in the grip of angry feelings, because as sophisticated an instrument as your brain is, when you’re in a stressed or highly emotional state, it becomes fairly primitive and can deal with only one thing at a time — either anger or appreciation.”4

Example:

“If we complain about chores — even just in the way we make the gesture of doing the chore — it will be emulated (perhaps not right away, but years from now). So, for example, take care that the books you read to your little one also interest you; if you are forcing yourself to read to your child (again, as a chore), you risk his imitation in the form of resisting the desire to read!”5

*By the way, I think there is a way to enjoy reading to your child, even if the book isn’t your idea of fun. Just like mamas can choose to nurse through aversion, we can choose to spend time with our children doing things that may not be high on our priority lists – and we can take joy in doing so. I’d recommend adapting this inner awareness exercise, along with any of the other meditations you can access at Presence Parenting.

Nurturance:

Here’s an interesting tidbit for you birth junkies: “The latest, hottest technology for midwives (or anyone else attending a birth) is . . . wait for it . . . knitting! A midwife (or doula, or partner) sitting serenely in a corner knitting is considered state of the art in progressive labor care. Knitting reduces adrenaline (in the knitter and by extension in the laboring woman) and cultivates the perfect atmosphere: monotonous, repetitive and beautiful. (A fringe benefit is that knitting is also known to facilitate hemispheric integration in the brain, readying a caregiver for optimally effective responsiveness when he or she is needed).”6

*And you know how I already feel about using knitting as depression help!

Axness also has a section on parenting methods that “de-peace” children: spanking, shaming (for example, saying “why did you lie to me?!” to your four year old), and isolating (i.e., using time-outs). She presents research on why these techniques are harmful (up to a global level) and offers alternatives to promote peaceful interactions.

Sprinkled throughout the text are fascinating stories and anecdotes that will have you reevaluating how you see parenting and life.

Parenting for Peace is one of my new favorite parenting books. I highly encourage you to pick up a copy of Parenting for Peace so you can read more.

BUY IT!

You can purchase your own copy of Parenting for Peace on Amazon for $12.63.

Or pick up a signed copy plus the CD “Calm Authority for Mothers” at Marcy’s website for $39.95.

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Two winners will each receive one copy of Parenting for Peace. Contest is open worldwide.

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9 Responses to Giveaway: Parenting for Peace – $38 ARV {7.23 Worldwide} CLOSED

  1. B. Perez

    Thank you for the entries! I would love to win a copy of this. Today, actually, I put aside my course studies and was In the Moment playing with my little ones where we relaxed and made homemade moon sand….

  2. Kitti Popovics

    I was very patient and repeated the answers for the questions asked hundred times.

  3. Amy G  

    My 15 month old was waking every hour at night a few days this week. When I was exhausted and very frustrated, I practiced relaxation breathing instead of directing feelings towards her.

  4. Christine @ African Babies Don't Cry  

    I pick my battles everyday, that doesn’t mean I give in to my 18 month old’s every desire, but I respect his will and his needs and pick my battles :)

  5. beth c  

    i cleaned house!! (example! :D ) also, instead of getting frustrated when things didn’t go my way, i tried to be more flexible and see things from my son’s point of view and then figure out how to make things work for both of us! thanks for the wonderful giveaway!!

  6. Katy Emanuel  

    When my daughter was cranky and fighting her nap we headed outside for a hike instead where she settled down and snuggled into me for a nap while in her carrier.

  7. Stuart

    Looks like an informative and helpful book.

  8. christine jessamine  

    i played alot of games with my kids this week

  9. Tracie Brown  

    I do not yell or scream at my daughter!