E-Mail 'Easing the Ride on the NICU Roller Coaster' To A Friend Email a copy of 'Easing the Ride on the NICU Roller Coaster' to a friend * Required Field Your Name: * Your E-Mail: * Your Remark: Friend's Name: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Friend's E-Mail: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Image Verification: * Loading ... 8 Responses to Easing the Ride on the NICU Roller Coaster Laurie March 10, 2011 at 3:47 pm This was helpful and encouraging. I haven’t had a NICU baby, but many women around me have. I think that is my biggest fear–and perhaps every mothers. I pray I never have a NICU baby, but this helps me know how to help others, as well as how to prepare for the possibility. linda Mcnamara March 10, 2011 at 4:01 pm just wanted to let you know that the word ‘rollercoaster’ in the title is misspelled..(it is spelled rollarcoaster on this site) That being said, this is a wonderful site for families in this situation! Laura March 11, 2011 at 8:29 am Ops, Thank you Linda! I will get an editor to change that! Kelly Grindrod March 11, 2011 at 10:05 am When my baby was in the NICU my midwife told me to be strong and take care of her because she was my baby and it was my job. It sounds like tough love but just hearing that gave me enormous strength to carry on. Because of that advice my husband and I tried to do all the diaper changes, nursing/supplementing, baths and comforting. The NICU nurses offered to do it all for us but it was empowering to provide the same care we would have at home. That said, my daughter was my first child so if I go through this again I’ll want someone at home taking care of my daughter so I can offer the same care to any future NICU baby. Laura March 13, 2011 at 12:57 pm It sounds like you had/have a lovely and supportive midwife. I hope your daughter is doing well now. Libby Hunt libstress March 12, 2011 at 7:18 pm My friends have a son in the NICU — I’m sharing this article with them. thank you! Laura March 13, 2011 at 12:58 pm Please do so! We also have another NICU article on her that was published in Oct or Nov. Please feel free to share that one as well. Cat March 23, 2011 at 4:41 pm This is such an excellent article. My daughter (who will be 2 in May) was born – completely by surprise – at 27 weeks. After planning a natural waterbirth at our birth center and figuring for a large, post-term baby (big late babies are common in my family), she threw us for a loop. However, we were lucky enough to have the support of an entire birth center full of midwives and OBs, fantastic nurses and doctors in the NICU, and excellent friends and family. The only thing I would add to this article is this: Mourning the birth you didn’t get to have is completely okay, even if your baby is doing super-well. I had a very hard time coming to terms with having had an emergency c-section and feeling like our daughter’s birth was “taken” from me, and felt guilty for mourning when she was doing so well (and continues to do so). And most people that haven’t had a preemie – and often, even partners – don’t understand those feelings.