Nursing at the School Carnival
Written by Laura on February 16th, 2012
Activism, Breastfeeding, Breastfeeding Past Infancy, Feeding With Love, Lactivism
BabyBear NIPing at three months old
As a mother of four children who has nursed three of them past their first birthdays, I knew just what to do when my toddler began to get fussy at the school carnival. As he tried to dive down the front of my shirt, I navigated the crowded hallways of the school, looking for an empty bench to sit on.
Smiling at the PTO president, I collapsed into a bench in the main hallway, chatting with a friend as BabyBear latched on. Quickly, his eyes began to close and he drifted off into dreamland.
Just as he had fallen half asleep, two seven year old friends of BigBrother ran up to me. I felt my heart quicken; not because I minded them seeing me nurse, but because I didn’t know how their mothers felt about someone nursing (an 18 month old!) in public. The children stood in front me, chattering to the baby who was oblivious to them.
Suddenly, one of the kids leaned over and looked straight down at the nursing toddler. I knew no one could see anything if they look at me from the front, but this child was looking at him from the “top down,” and had the same view I had!
“Awe, he’s so cute!” Then he giggled. “He’s so silly! He’s sucking your arm!”
Relief washed over me. “Well, actually honey, he’s nursing.”
“He’s doing what?” asked the other child, confused.
“Breastfeeding,” I said as all my potential comebacks to any irate adult rushed through my head. I was nursing in a public place but my son had a right to be there so he also had the right to nurse . . . it was this or a screaming toddler . . . breastfeeding is normal and natural . . . .
But I had no need for these comebacks as the kids said, “Oh! Cool!” at the same time and skipped away.
As they left it occurred to me that two seven year olds standing in front of me looking down at a nursing toddler could not tell what I was doing. Many nursing in public nay-sayers complain that they don’t want to see “that” (ie, a child sucking on a breast): it is indiscreet and should be covered up. Many people see nursing in public from a distance as they walk past a mother and baby pair. Yet these kids, who potentially had a perfect view of the package BabyBear’s nap time snack came in, couldn’t see anything. They couldn’t tell what he was doing.
I’d like to think that I was a good role model for those kids that afternoon. Yes, I led by example and nursed a toddler in public. But really, they are the ones who taught me something by reminding me that breastfeeding in public (even without a cover) is discreet.
About The Author: Laura
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Laura is the mother to a herd of four small children, wife to her Engineer Husband, and owner of a pesky dog. She blogs about her life in the Midwest at Walden Mommy: Life Behind the Red Front Door.
I’ve also felt my pulse quicken as someone else’s children approached me while I was nursing in public. It’s scary to think that someone else might react negatively toward you, even though you are completely within your rights. And I’ve found the same thing you did – the children just shrug it off and go on about their business. It doesn’t bother them until someone *tells* them it should. Such a shame – and exactly why I will continue to go out of my way to make sure my son is exposed to nursing moms as he matures. Thanks for sharing your story!
I am so happy to read this. I nurse in public all of the time. Last week I sat on a bench at the zoo to nurse my little one. My 3 year old daughter sat next to me and proceeded to nurse her baby doll as well! Thank you for sharing your story.
Aw! I love kids’ reactions — they usually are so matter-of-fact about it.
you’re very brave and so happy for moms like you who breastfeed beyond infancy in public!!
my daughter is nursing at 3 and reacts very positively when she sees other children “doing the boobies”! 🙂 she actually pretended to nurse her dolly last week to comfort her and i was so excited that not only was i able to nurse her, but give her a positive connection to breastfeeding that she may pass on one day as a mother herself 🙂
The last time I nursed at public (church cry room) two of the other little girls came over and asked what I was doing and then asked if they could go next!
way to go! when i lived in Tanzania, all the women nursed in public, but it was culturally inappropriate to show leg past your knees. here, women flaunt every body part they’ve got with scandalous clothes, but when a woman tried to nurse in public, she’s looked at with disgust! something’s wrong here..