Yup. I do this growly thing or I say “besito mami” (kiss mama) and then I either kiss her or wait for her to turn away. Once in a while I can’t resist and I just smooch her but I try to let her know that I know I am doing it without asking her permission. I also don’t like to hold her down when I am changing her. She’s only 8 months old, but it’s still her body!
My daughter hasn’t wanted to be hugged or kissed in over 6 months. It’s hard not to take it personally, or push the issue sometimes, but we would rather she felt fully in control of her body and how she is touched then that we get what we want.
Thank you for this lovely post. I really like how you approach the issue with your child.
Holy cow, I love this! It’s so easy to assume that our children will enjoy what we enjoy. We like being kissed, snuggled, and tickled – these are nice thing to do, so why think twice about doing them to our children? As you so beautifully explain, however, even if our children do like these things, they don’t necessarily want them all the time, and they deserve to feel considered and respected!
I also remember peeing my pants from getting tickled… I think it is so important to let our children set their boundaries and for us to respond to that rather than charging in.
One of my favorite books is Your Amazing Newborn, which talks a lot about how even infants communicate with us about their limits (one of the most obvious ways being that they break their gaze from us).
It’s a wonderful gift you’re giving your child — attunement and respect!
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Yup. I do this growly thing or I say “besito mami” (kiss mama) and then I either kiss her or wait for her to turn away. Once in a while I can’t resist and I just smooch her but I try to let her know that I know I am doing it without asking her permission. I also don’t like to hold her down when I am changing her. She’s only 8 months old, but it’s still her body!
My daughter hasn’t wanted to be hugged or kissed in over 6 months. It’s hard not to take it personally, or push the issue sometimes, but we would rather she felt fully in control of her body and how she is touched then that we get what we want.
Thank you for this lovely post. I really like how you approach the issue with your child.
Great advice! Thank you!
Holy cow, I love this! It’s so easy to assume that our children will enjoy what we enjoy. We like being kissed, snuggled, and tickled – these are nice thing to do, so why think twice about doing them to our children? As you so beautifully explain, however, even if our children do like these things, they don’t necessarily want them all the time, and they deserve to feel considered and respected!
I also remember peeing my pants from getting tickled… I think it is so important to let our children set their boundaries and for us to respond to that rather than charging in.
One of my favorite books is Your Amazing Newborn, which talks a lot about how even infants communicate with us about their limits (one of the most obvious ways being that they break their gaze from us).
It’s a wonderful gift you’re giving your child — attunement and respect!
Blessings,
Stacy