E-Mail 'Redirecting the Impulse to Spank' To A Friend Email a copy of 'Redirecting the Impulse to Spank' to a friend * Required Field Your Name: * Your E-Mail: * Your Remark: Friend's Name: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Friend's E-Mail: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Image Verification: * Loading ... 6 Responses to Redirecting the Impulse to Spank Dionna codenamemama April 30, 2012 at 10:10 am Just because I’ve never spanked doesn’t mean that I’ve never felt the urge to! Being raised in a home where spanking was a parenting method, there have been times when I get so frustrated that spanking seems like an option. Thank you for this honest post – I can relate. And, like you, I am thankful that I’ve found more peaceful ways to work through problems, even though they are not always easy. Amy Amy_Willa April 30, 2012 at 11:38 am I am so glad that the feeling is mutual. For a while I struggled with guilt over my impulse to hit Abbey. . . now I can be confident in my choice NOT to, and not feel guilty for those natural feelings! Glad you enjoyed the post! Amy @ Anktangle anktangle April 30, 2012 at 10:46 am I totally agree with this, Amy! Like lots of other parents, I sometimes have the urge to hit my child, but my partner and I choose to use connection over punishment when it comes to discipline. It’s not easy! But then again, who ever said parenting would be? Thank you so much for writing this thoughtful post. Amy Amy_Willa April 30, 2012 at 11:40 am I think it’s important to be honest and authentic about feelings and find a way to use that energy in a productive manner. We do a lot of “feelings talks” in our house! Glad you enjoyed the post! Zoie @ TouchstoneZ TouchstoneZ April 30, 2012 at 3:27 pm Amy, hank you for writing this piece for the carnival and sharing it on NPN. This concept “that disobedience has a solution, not a consequence” is incredibly powerful. That is a life-changing idea. So often, when we’re having one of those times, that you talk about, when it’s ugly and frustrating to parent, we look at the problems. We get locked into controlling it because we feel out of control. Control means consequences, but not solutions. I’m going to read more about Amy McCreedy, too. Thank you for introducing me to her words. Megan@TheBehavioralChild BehavioralChild April 30, 2012 at 5:46 pm Enjoyed reading your post, your points were poignant and persuasive. As a fellow believer in positive behavior support, I have found that communication is sometimes all that is needed to build a bridge between two disagreeing points of view. Sometimes, it’s just as simple as that.