E-Mail 'Respecting My Toddler's "No"' To A Friend Email a copy of 'Respecting My Toddler's "No"' to a friend * Required Field Your Name: * Your E-Mail: * Your Remark: Friend's Name: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Friend's E-Mail: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Image Verification: * Loading ... 4 Responses to Respecting My Toddler’s “No” Montessori Motherload August 31, 2012 at 8:56 am I do agree that we shouldn’t push kids to show affection (hug, kiss) when they say “no.” Even with family, I always ask my daughter if she’d like to hug/kiss them goodbye and usually she does. However, if she says, “No” I do not force her to. I don’t want her ever to feel obligated to hug/kiss people she doesn’t want to, especially since I’ve read that it is more likely that a person who is taken advantage of in that way is someone you know rather than a stranger. Montessori Motherload August 31, 2012 at 8:58 am Just re-read my comment and hope I don’t sound too paranoid or suspicious of people I know! I just don’t want to build in a feeling of obligation in her, that’s all! Adrienne August 31, 2012 at 1:17 pm Oh, I didn’t take it that way at all! It’s so important to consider that our modeling and molding of our children has an impact that lasts far into the future! I valued your points greatly. Mama Mo @ Attached at the Nip September 2, 2012 at 11:45 pm I also think respecting the no is vitally important. I wrote about it earlier this summer (http://attachedatthenip.blogspot.com/2012/06/when-my-children-say-no-to-me.html). I allow– and even encourage– my children to say no to me for two reasons. First, they get practice at negotiating and being heard. Second, I don’t want blindly compliant children; I want them to know how to stand up to authority figures when they’re older. I figure it’s good practice on me now. Thanks for writing about this topic. It’s an important one!