I am a stay-at-home mom. For many people, that simple statement conjures up their own vision of who I am and what I do. Generally speaking, the stereotypical idea of a 1950s housewife pops into their head. I know this based on comments made by some of my husband’s coworkers and relatives over the years. It’s true that my husband goes off to work and I stay at home…or not, depending on where our unschooling journeys take us. However, that is where any similarity ends.
I don’t stay home because it is expected of me. That would be a joke in this day and age where most families are dual income. Neither do I stay home because I lack education or knowledge. I am an intelligent woman and happen to possess multiple degrees. It is my choice to stay home with my children. That isn’t to say that those housewives from other eras were lacking knowledge or intelligence, but they were generally lacking in their own choice.
Before my husband and I were married, we discussed how we would raise our future, and hoped for, children. It was important to both of us to have a parent stay home with the kids. While we didn’t know how it would look at the time, we also knew we wanted to homeschool.
I stay at home with my children, but I am not the stereotypical little woman supporting her husband as he goes off to work in the world. That isn’t to say that I am unsupportive of him, but the focus in that scenario is all wrong for our family. Our focus is on raising our children the way we believe is best for our family. In that endeavor, my husband plays the supporting role by working outside the home, enabling us to have a parent at home with the kids and making our unschooling lifestyle easier.
When all is said and done, my husband and I remain partners, working toward our collective goal of raising our children and enjoying life together.
This post has been edited from a version previously published at Living Peacefully with Children.