E-Mail 'Role Reversal' To A Friend Email a copy of 'Role Reversal' to a friend * Required Field Your Name: * Your E-Mail: * Your Remark: Friend's Name: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Friend's E-Mail: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Image Verification: * Loading ... 4 Responses to Role Reversal Lauren Hobo_Mama February 7, 2012 at 2:18 am I really love your perspective on this. There can be so much baggage that goes along with being a SAHM, and I’m glad you’re busting it. I also like how you paint a picture of parenting equality where both parents choose the roles that work best for them and the family. I find my husband’s and my roles are rather fluid, and we both do some of each — the childrearing/unschooling and the working. He earns more income, though, so I often think others must consider me a SAHM. It’s good to remember that it doesn’t have to be a narrow definition. Michelle shell03shell February 7, 2012 at 5:41 am I always believed that I would choose to be a stay at home mom. When the time came, though, we realised that we could not possibly afford to give up my income. How would we afford the mortgage on our nice home? How would we afford to live? I was lucky enough to have my retired mother offer to look after our daughter while I was at work and although I missed many milestones in our baby daughter’s life, I knew that she was well looked after and doted on by her grandparents. This made going back to work much easier for me. Then I was taken ill and ultimately diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. Money still being a massive concern, I continued to work. Well, tried to continue to work. It became clear that I could no longer manage my (very well paid) full time job in the city so I reduced my working hours but eventually realised that I had no energy left to play any kind of active role at home. When I wasn’t at work, I was fast asleep on the sofa or being mean to my family because I was so tired and in so much pain. Something had to give. I gave up my job and became the stay at home mom I had once wanted to be. It felt horrible having to sell our nice home in a nice area and instead buy a tiny house in a not so nice area. I was worried about the impact on my daughter. And if the truth be told, I was concerned about the impact on me. What I eventually came to realise, though, was that money never made us happy. We are much happier now than we’ve ever been and one of the biggest joys was having our second child and being able to see her grow – from day one. We live a much slower life than other families. We have much less money to spend on the latest ‘must haves’. But. We love each other and the kids know they’re loved. This illness has totally changed my life and for that, I am truly grateful. Jessica A. February 14, 2012 at 9:26 am I really like this. I can completely relate. I also have chosen to stay home with our kids while my husband works outside of the home. We work together as a team to provide the best for our kids. I like the idea of “unschooling”, and am doing more research into it – thanks for sharing 🙂 Jan Messali janj4c February 14, 2012 at 8:07 pm I love your perspective on this. I always imagined I’d go back to work after having my children. But, once I had them I had an extreme desire to be home with them and raise them myself rather than send them to a sitter. I was blessed to be able to do so.