Giveaway: Respectful Parents Respectful Kids with Book Discussion {3.13; US} CLOSED

This giveaway is now closed. Stay tuned for the winner announcement. Thank you all for entering!

This is a joint giveaway with Code Name: Mama and Natural Parents Network. You may enter at one site only. Please find the section marked “Win it!” for the mandatory main entry and optional bonus entries.

We are opening up entries to the Respectful Parents Respectful Kids Giveaway to make it easier for anyone to win, but participating in our book discussion will net you even more entries!1

Here’s a little bit about Respectful Parents Respectful Kids:

Respectful Parents Respectful Kids is one of my favorite parenting books. It is modeled after Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication philosophy, and you can apply what you learn to all of your relationships – not just those with your children.

Hart and Hodson focus “on creating respect and cooperation between parents and children,” and they give us seven keys to help us work on these skills. The seven keys include concepts like “parenting with a purpose clearly in mind, looking beyond behavior to the needs that motivate it, and actively choosing structures and practices that fulfill one’s purposes and intentions.” The authors stay away from some of the techniques that are commonly preached to parents, things like natural consequences, time-outs, incentives, and punishment, because those are all simply ways “to control kids’ behavior.”2

Respect and cooperation are not about control, nor are they about managing children’s behavior.

In Respectful Parents Respectful Kids, you will learn simple yet effective ways to build on good feelings and connection. The book “addresses the only behavior you can actually change – your own. The beauty of it is, when you change your behavior, your kids’ behavior will change too.” Think of it this way – will your children learn by having you lecture them, day in and day out? Will your ultimatums and scoldings motivate them to grow into kind people? Or will they learn by watching you live your values?3

If you would like to build your capacity to create a loving home, I hope you will join us for this discussion. “A loving home is free of fear, which is the source of all conflict. It is a place where children trust that their needs matter and that everyone’s needs – theirs included – will be considered and cared for.” Respectful Parents Respectful Kids will give you the tools you need to create such an atmosphere.4


You can purchase Respectful Parents Respectful Kids on Amazon ($12.21 new plus free shipping for Prime customers!), Barnes & Noble ($12.92 new and free shipping if you spend $25), straight from Puddle Dancer Press ($12.55, or as low as $8.95 if you buy multiple books), or check into one of your locally owned/independent book sellers.


There are several ways to enter the giveaway:

  • REQUIRED ENTRY: Visit Puddle Dancer Press and leave a comment here telling us which of their books looks most interesting to you and why.
  • FOR 1 BONUS ENTRY ENTRY: Join the Natural Parents Network Forums and participate in one of the threads about RPRK. Deadline to participate in the discussion threads for entry into the giveaway is March 13.
  • FOR 1 BONUS ENTRY (once/day up to 2 times/entries): Share this post on Facebook: “Join the Respectful Parents Respectful Kids online book discussion on @Code Name: Mama and learn how to turn conflict and struggles with your kids into respect and cooperation. Click to find out how to participate and win your own copy of the book!” Deadline to share is March 6, 2011. Be sure to attach the URL to your update. Leave a comment on this post after you shared the above update.
  • FOR 1 BONUS ENTRY (once/day up to 2 times/entries): Tweet this post on Twitter: “Discussion/giveaway of Respectful Parents RespectfulKids via @NatParNet & @CodeNameMama; turn conflict into cooperation” Deadline to tweet is March 6, 2011. Leave a comment on this post after you tweet.
  • FOR 2 BONUS ENTRIES: Blog about our online book discussion (linking back to Code Name: Mama and the Natural Parents Network Forums). Blog posts must be published no later than Sunday, March 6, 2011. Please leave a comment on this post with a link to your post.
  • FOR 10 BONUS ENTRIES: Write a guest post for Code Name: Mama and email it to me. Your post must present a recent challenge you have had with your child and how you addressed it respectfully – preferably using one of the methods you learned about in RPRK. Posts must adhere to my contributor guidelines, and by submitting a post for consideration, you acknowledge that it may be posted on my site.5 Posts are due no later than 9:00pm CST on Sunday, March 13.
  • Leave a relevant comment on a non-giveaway article at Natural Parents Network and tell us which post (comment on separate posts for up to 3 entries total).
  • Leave a relevant comment on a non-giveaway article at Code Name: Mama and tell us which post (comment on separate posts for up to 3 entries total).
  • Put the Natural Parents Network badge on your website or add to your text blogroll for 2 extra entries each. The HTML code for the badge is on the front page of Leave your site URL in the comment.


  • Contest open to United States mailing addresses only.
  • Contestants may enter at either or, but not both. Entries will be combined for the drawing of a single winner.
  • Leave each entry as a separate comment so we can count them all.
  • For actions like following and subscribing, if you already follow or subscribe, just let us know in your comment.
  • For tasks that garner you multiple entries, you can copy and paste the comment with a #1, #2, etc.
  • You don’t have to do any of the bonus entries, but you do have to complete the first mandatory one.
  • We will pick the winner through after the contest closes and send an email notification. Leave a valid email address as you comment so we can contact you if you win. If we can’t reach a winner or don’t hear back within a couple days, we’ll draw a new name.
  • Any questions, let Dionna know: CodeNameMama {at} gmail {dot} com

Contest closes March 13, 2011 at 11:59 p.m. CST.

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since she already owned the book!
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Dionna, the reviewer of Respectful Parents Respectful Kids, blogs about natural parenting at Code Name: Mama and is also the cofounder of Natural Parents Network and

  1. Originally, the giveaway was only open to discussion participants.
  2. Respectful Parents Respectful Kids at 7.
  3. Respectful Parents Respectful Kids at 8-9.
  4. Respectful Parents Respectful Kids at 10.
  5. You may change names to protect your privacy, but please leave ages/behavior intact.

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