E-Mail 'Shy Children Don't Need to be Fixed' To A Friend Email a copy of 'Shy Children Don't Need to be Fixed' to a friend * Required Field Your Name: * Your E-Mail: * Your Remark: Friend's Name: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Friend's E-Mail: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Image Verification: * Loading ... 6 Responses to Shy Children Don’t Need to be Fixed Momma Jorje MommaJorje September 15, 2014 at 11:10 pm My mother used to tell “shy” children “You must be a thinker.” She meant it as a total compliment and it always seemed to be well-received. Its one of the sweet, thoughtful parenting approaches she had that I will always remember about her. It wasn’t that the child was shy – they were thinking. There is nothing wrong with that! Ariadne September 18, 2014 at 8:08 am Being a “Thinker” is such a nice way to describe introversion. thank you for sharing that! Lec September 16, 2014 at 6:05 am So true. As an introverted adult, I’ve always been cognisant of not forcing my son into things until he is ready. Ariadne September 18, 2014 at 8:11 am Lec, thank you for sharing that. I have had to learn along the way to find a good balance between encouraging and respecting, and stepping back to understand things from the introverted perspective since I am very chatty and bubbly myself. Joanna L K Moore twistedsleeve September 22, 2014 at 4:17 am I think we need to be making more of a distinction between shyness and introversion. Introversion should never be seen as something negative and no one should try to turn an introverted child into an extrovert. But if a child is shy and their shyness stop them from doing things that they do want to be doing, I believe we should help. I work with shy girls to help them become more confident but I’d only ever want to get involved if the child/teenager was unhappy because of their shyness. If the child is content with the way they are, there’s no problem to address. Paige July 31, 2016 at 10:05 pm My firstborn son, now 3, is very shy/quiet/slow to warm up in social settings. I’m getting better about helping him warm up, being patient/ok with that personality trait, and prepping him for situations ahead of time. What drives me bananas is the other adults that label him as shy! How should I respond in a way that is respectful to the adult but supportive & encouraging to my son as he overhears our interaction? I really want to be snippy and remind the adult that they are feeding a self-fulfilling prophesy when they label him as shy. But I’m sure there are more graceful ways to handle it. Ideas?