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6 Responses to Shy Children Don’t Need to be Fixed

  1. Momma Jorje  

    My mother used to tell “shy” children “You must be a thinker.” She meant it as a total compliment and it always seemed to be well-received. Its one of the sweet, thoughtful parenting approaches she had that I will always remember about her.

    It wasn’t that the child was shy – they were thinking. There is nothing wrong with that!

  2. Lec

    So true. As an introverted adult, I’ve always been cognisant of not forcing my son into things until he is ready.

  3. Ariadne

    Lec, thank you for sharing that. I have had to learn along the way to find a good balance between encouraging and respecting, and stepping back to understand things from the introverted perspective since I am very chatty and bubbly myself.

  4. Joanna L K Moore  

    I think we need to be making more of a distinction between shyness and introversion. Introversion should never be seen as something negative and no one should try to turn an introverted child into an extrovert. But if a child is shy and their shyness stop them from doing things that they do want to be doing, I believe we should help. I work with shy girls to help them become more confident but I’d only ever want to get involved if the child/teenager was unhappy because of their shyness. If the child is content with the way they are, there’s no problem to address.

  5. Paige

    My firstborn son, now 3, is very shy/quiet/slow to warm up in social settings. I’m getting better about helping him warm up, being patient/ok with that personality trait, and prepping him for situations ahead of time. What drives me bananas is the other adults that label him as shy! How should I respond in a way that is respectful to the adult but supportive & encouraging to my son as he overhears our interaction? I really want to be snippy and remind the adult that they are feeding a self-fulfilling prophesy when they label him as shy. But I’m sure there are more graceful ways to handle it. Ideas?