Side-Lying Nursing: A Breastfeeding Tutorial

I want to put a tutorial out there for how to breastfeed lying down, because it makes such a significant difference to how enjoyable cosleeping and breastfeeding will be for most mamas.

If you want to get the best sleep while breastfeeding, I recommend cosleeping. And if you want to get the best sleep while cosleeping and breastfeeding, I highly recommend learning side-lying nursing early on!

It can take a little time to get the hang of it, but once you’ve got it down, you can pull your baby in for a feed and then both of you can drowse, safely, back to sleep.

cosleeping pillow positions

First, let’s imagine you’re in the cosleeping position I recommended in my cosleeping tutorial, or something like it. To recap, the most important bits are (you can find more details in the link):

  • lying on your side (hence the side-lying nursing — get it?)
  • making sure pillows and blankets are safely out of the way of your little one
  • having your boobs nice and accessible (I prefer a shelf-bra cami so there’s no fiddling in the dark)

That wide flat space next to you is for the baby.

All right, now you lay your baby down next to you in the bed, and here is how you position the baby:

  • with her mouth roughly in line with your breasts
  • on her side or back — if she’s on her side, she’ll be in line to eat. If she’s on her back, she’ll just turn her head to nurse; this is easier with older nurslings who have bigger heads and more neck control. Regardless of how you position your little one to feed, she’ll probably roll onto her back after the feeding; this is completely normal and a testament to the safety of cosleeping while breastfeeding.
  • with the baby’s legs wherever they want to go — you’ll see in the picture that I prefer sleeping with my knees pulled up to round my back, which means that only the smallest newborn has room to put his legs straight down. That’s OK, though, because your baby can fold his legs as well, angle his body and legs off to the side, or stack them on top of your thighs like a cozy ottoman, whatever’s comfortable for both of you. Experiment to see what works.

So here’s how it looks:

cosleeping side-lying nursing bottom breast

This is with a toddler, of course, but the principle’s the same no matter the age of the baby. I was going to try to take some pictures with a doll to simulate a newborn, but we couldn’t find any of the dolls! They get around; what can I say?

cosleeping side-lying nursing bottom breast back view

Here’s the view from the child’s back.

In both of these pictures, I’m nursing with what we’ll call the “bottom” breast, as in, the one closest to the mattress. This is usually the easiest breast for mamas to learn side-lying nursing on.

So now you’ve seen it done, here are the steps to getting the baby latched on to the bottom breast while you’re both lying down:

  • Lean back slightly until your nipple is at a comfortable angle to fit into your infant’s mouth. I find having a pillow tucked well down behind my back and bolstered against something sturdy (a bedside table) helps to support me as I lean. How far back you’ll need to lean depends on your own particular breast (size, fullness, etc.). Just use your observations and common sense to gauge it: Is your nipple angling down into the mattress? Then you need to lean back farther. Is your nipple pointing more toward the ceiling? Then you need to turn more fully onto your side. You want your nipple at the height where it will be comfortable for your baby to latch on.
  • Now pull your baby in close to you. Really close. There are many ways to do this. For very light babies, you can snake an arm underneath and gently pull the baby over. For older and heavier babies and toddlers, I prefer the method of yanking the arm and leg closest to me (well, he’s never complained!). Some mamas find it easier to place the baby onto a thin receiving blanket or prefold diaper and pull on the cloth instead. Once your baby’s kind of close, really snug her in tightly, by using your upper arm to push on her bum. Particularly for very young babies, her lower body should be touching your tummy. The shape you make together, your torso and her body, will now feel something like a V.
  • If your baby needs support to stay on his side, you can tuck a rolled-up receiving blanket or prefold behind his back. Don’t place it behind his neck or head, because he needs freedom to pull away from your breast when he’s done eating or needs a break to breathe. You can also use your bottom arm to hold him closer, letting his head rest on your upper arm.
  • If the baby’s too young to latch on immediately, help her latch. Try teasing her upper lip with the nipple. You might need to support that breast with your upper hand (as in, the one not pinned under your body) and guide it more fully into your baby’s mouth, doing the C-hold as necessary to match your infant’s mouth shape. If the baby’s latched on and something doesn’t feel right, wet one of your fingers and slide it beside your baby’s mouth to break the suction, and then try again. Don’t get discouraged if it takes awhile to learn, because it does get easier and it is so worth it in the end.
  • Older babies will just get what’s going on (hey, nummies are nearby!), so not as much persuading is necessary.

Now for the kicker!

You can switch sides when your baby needs to switch breasts, or…you can learn to nurse from both breasts while lying on the same side. More sleep = win!

cosleeping side-lying nursing top breast and legs on top of mother's legsTo switch breasts without switching sides, you need to learn to nurse from the “top” breast, as in, the one closest to the ceiling. Since nursing from the bottom meant leaning back, nursing from the top means leaning forward a bit. How far forward you lean depends, again, on your breast size and shape. I have large breasts and find I’m almost perfectly perpendicular when nursing from the top rather than pitched very far forward. Just do what works for you, again using your own observations to note when your nipple is in line with your baby’s mouth.

As you’re pitching yourself forward, you might find you need to use your top leg to act as a sort of kickstand, angling it slightly off your bottom leg onto the mattress.

I find with the top breast even more so than the bottom that the baby is often more comfortable on his back, his head slightly turned toward you (as in the photo to the right). Experiment with putting your baby on his back or side to see what works.

If you want to switch sides for your own comfort while sleeping, here are a couple tips:

  • Sit up and hover over your baby while pulling her to the other side. Again, this is where a thin receiving blanket or prefold under your baby can help you in sliding her over.
  • While lying down, pick your child up onto your chest, and then roll together with him. You might need to scootch one direction or the other afterward, too, depending on how close you are to the edge.

I’ve done the switching-sides thing, but I much prefer the staying-put idea for the better sleep it gets me. See what works best for you!

In the comments on my cosleeping post, Kristin of Intrepid Murmurings, a mama of (adorable) twins mentioned one more way to nurse lying down that worked for multiples and works for singletons as well: Lie or recline on your back, and have your baby or babies sleep on top of you, with pillows to support your position as necessary. I found having Mikko sleep on my chest was especially good when his nose was stuffed up, either in those early days of post-birth congestion or in later times of having a cold.

As your nursling gets older and more mobile, she’ll find her own ways to nurse lying down. This is one of Mikko’s favorites:

cosleeping side-lying nursing with baby sitting up

Half sitting, and leaning in, and when I’m on my back, he has free access to switch breasts to his toddler’s heart’s content. I’ll often wake up to find him just so.

If side-lying nursing is not working for you now, it’s always worth trying again in the future. As you and your baby become more comfortable with latching in general, and your baby gains some head and neck control, you might find side-lying nursing possible in a few weeks or months.

So stick with it, because eventually nursing lying down will become so easy for both of you that you can literally sleep right through it!

More resources and pictures for nursing lying down:

How has side-lying nursing worked for you? Any other tips to pass along?

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In sharing how they do things in their families, authors are not trying to suggest the same choices are right for you. Please consider the safety issues, and take all precautions when considering where your children will sleep. There might be increased risk for babies under six months regardless of how bed sharing is done. In such cases, a separate safe sleeping surface might be a better choice. Statements on this website have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. Products and/or information are not intended to diagnose, cure, treat, or prevent any disease. Readers are advised to do their own research and make decisions in partnership with their healthcare provider. If you are pregnant, are nursing, have a medical condition, or are taking any medication, please consult your physician. Nothing you read here should be relied upon to determine dietary changes, a medical diagnosis, or courses of treatment.

About The Author: Lauren Wayne

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Lauren Wayne is a co-founder of Natural Parents Network. She works and writes at home with her husband, Crackerdog Sam, and their sons, Mikko and Alrik. Lauren blogs about natural and attachment parenting at Hobo Mama, offers reviews and giveaways of natural parenting products at Hobo Mama Reviews, and gives a behind-the scenes look at blogging and writing at LaurenWayne.com. Lauren co-hosts the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting and is the author of Poetry of a Hobo Mama: The First Three Years, The Natural Parent's Guide to Babywearing, and What Will We Learn Today? You can find Lauren on Twitter, Facebook, her , her Google+ page, and Pinterest.

18 Responses to Side-Lying Nursing: A Breastfeeding Tutorial

  1. Cynthia

    I’d been nursing in a side-lying position for a while. However, when I learned how to nurse from the “top” breast, it made such an impact–the ease made baby and I more comfortable & I got much more sleep.

    Thanks for this post!

  2. Dagmar Bleasdale  

    What a great article! Learning how to nurse my son side-lying made all the difference! I figured it out about four days after his birth and I am still nursing him like that at night — and he is going to turn 4 in two weeks :)
    I’m going to put a link to this post on my Breastfeeding page on Dagmar’s momsense.

    Dagmar
    Dagmar’s momsense

  3. cass  

    I used to nurse my twins in bed using a similar method — I’d nurse the first baby with the “bottom” breast, then when it was time for the other baby, I’d rearrange the babies and nurse from the “top” breast. (That kept the babies toward the center of the bed.) When they were a bit older, I put a bedrail on the side of the bed and slept with one on each side of me, and then I could roll back and forth as needed to nurse through the night – which was a definite time and sleep saver!

  4. Emilee

    Great post! These are those things that moms just have to “figure out” on their own because you just don’t get to SEE this in a normal way like I am sure they did back when the “village” was around to help out. ;)

    It’s great to see mamas who feel comfortable enough to share these types of photos and explanations with ease. Your photos and explanations were perfect!

    We have coslept with my daughter since the start. Well we did use the pack/play/cosleeper next to my bed some but then it just became so much easier to just let her stay in bed (duh!) LOL! it’s been fun going from a tiny baby to now a toddler, I love her waking me up in the morning with her giggles. I only wish I had done this for my son, but now he comes to our bed in the night when she wakes up and we just let him stay! Hoping we are making up for lost time of bonding. My husband always asks him, why did you come to our bed last night and he says…because I love you. LOL! :)

  5. Dena

    Since my son became a toddler, he is usually climbing on top of me, or the walls when we side-lie nurse! Downward facing dog is another favorite position. I have been doing this since he was a few months old and it is definitely preferable to getting up at night to breastfeed, but I have never been able to sleep when he is nursing.

    • Lauren  

      It sure does get interesting once they’re toddlers! :) I love the downward facing dog one.

      I know some people can sleep through and some can’t. I couldn’t sleep through when I was pregnant and feeling discomfort, but still, as you say, it was preferable to stay in bed at least!

  6. Becky

    Just finding the site. Thank you for posting this article with pictures!
    I figured out how to do it from reading an article once, but she had a different body type and breast size, so it took some work to figure it out for me.
    Your explanations work for everyone and the pictures are great!
    My son (nearly 4 months old now!) is (hopefully) at the end of a Left Boob Strike and often the only way to get him to eat off that side is to do sidelying with leftie as the top boob.

  7. Raechel

    I loved reading this! Makes me feel so much better. I have had my baby co-sleep with me since he was born {now 9 months} but I always have to lie to people because they make me feel so guilty about it. It makes it so much easier to breastfeed though and he is happier sleeping with me anyway. My daughter co slept with me until 2 and nothing bad happened {now 9 years old!}. But everyone made me feel like I was a bad mom for having my baby in bed with me … So thank you! for making me feel better!!! =)

  8. Helen

    Side lying nursing is very helpful,i’ve done it with our 1st son and doing again with our 2nd one. But make it sure you have enough space on bed to share with and a mom must be careful,aware and alert esp.for 6months under

  9. hamad

    Thanks for the big help my wife just was worried about how she breastfeeding her baby .. so she told me to google it and we found this beautiful website :)))))

  10. devora

    is it safe to fall asleep while you are breast feeding like that? I have a preemie who is 6 weeks old, how would I know if she ate enough?

    • Laura

      From experience, YES be careful about falling asleep while nursing a preemie or any baby who has had trouble eating. You need to be awake to make sure THEY stay awake to eat enough. It’s really hard at night but if you both cuddle down and get all cozy, it’s easy for a baby who has trouble nursing, or gets tired easily from eating, to get warm, toasty and sleepy. When my preemie was little, I had to actually haul myself out of bed and I would park myself in the living room with the TV on to stay awake. I had to make sure he had a full feed and that his diapers were soaking wet. Be sure to record times of feeding, how long and the diaper count, even at night.

      When your baby is older and has established a good eating, gaining and maintaining weight, then you can certainly cuddle down and side-lie nurse like you would a term infant. Until then, you should be awake to make sure they are getting enough to eat at every feeding.

      As for co-sleeping, yes, barring any additional health concerns, co-sleeping with a premature infant can be done safely. In fact, you may want your preemie in your room sleeping (in a crib or co-sleeper) if they are on any monitors or need special care during the night.

  11. Jes

    I love this. I was that mother that got up and out of bed, grabbed the baby, and sit in a rocker to nurse… The whole time crying because I was exhausted and this was the 3rd feeding of the night. One day I decided to co sleep and nurse while sleeping, much to her father’s dismay, but it worked. I loved it. I was rested and was a better mother because of it.

    Some tips I learned. Sleep on a receiving blanket… I leaked all night long. Also, keep a washcloth for you to put in your cami while the baby is nursing from the bottom. I would leak all over my daughter’s head! Lol!

    Thanks for writing this.

  12. Carley

    Hi there! Reading this while nursing my 3 month old side-laying for the first time since the LC showed me how to in the hospital. He had latching issues and we were needing to use a nipple shield for a while. Off that now and want to give this another go. I’m curious about burping though – my son tends to spit up a lot if he’s on his back after nursing, and one of the reasons I’m so excited about this is for the ability to just lay and snuggle.

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