Strive for Balance in Your Personal and Family Life
Attachment Parenting International‘s eighth principle of parenting is to “strive for balance in your personal and family life.” API says:
Striving for Balance involves ensuring that everyone’s needs — not just the child’s — are recognized, validated, and met to the greatest extent possible. In an ideal world, every family member’s needs are met all the time, everyone is happy and healthy, and the family is perfectly in balance. In the real world, nobody’s family life is perfectly balanced all the time. It is not unusual for parents to feel out of balance at times. Parents who practice AP continuously look for creative ways to find balance in their personal and family life.
To learn more about striving for balance, take a look at the resources below. If you have specific questions about this category or know of additional resources that should be on our list, please contact us.
- Tips for New Mothers, Avoiding Parent Burn Out and More (Attachment Parenting International): API offers great tips for new and veteran mothers alike to help achieve balance and avoid “parent burnout.” This site provides a list of creative ways to integrate balance into your everyday life, as well as a list of further resources to consult in your quest to maintain balance.
- The Comfortable Life: This site was started as the first step in a mother’s quest for finding balance in her busy life after becoming burnt out from a corporate lifestyle. She offers a host of valuable resources, from articles to ideas, on achieving and maintaining a more comfortable, balanced life regardless of your situation.
- How to Find that Elusive Balance Between Work and Life, by Leo Babauta: This article offers great advice for finding the balance between work and the rest of your life. ZenHabits.net itself is about finding happiness and simplicity in a cluttered, chaotic world, and provides numerous articles and methods for achieving that balance, peace, and serenity we all are searching for. The website is also ad-free and the author, who does not take guest posts, is a married father of six children and practices a minimalistic lifestyle.
- Life with Baby: Balance: API provides advice and links to further reading for mothers of infants.
- Staying Centered: The Art of Full-Time Parenting, Janeen Solberg: Advice and inspiration for stay-at-home parents who are seeking balance and peace.
- The Mother’s Guide to Self-Renewal: How to Reclaim, Rejuvenate and Re-Balance Your Life, by Renee Peterson Trudeau: This is an incredible book written by career and life balance coach and mother, who shares her secrets to self-renewal through a spiritual journey of self-exploration. She encourages you to let go of unrealistic expectations and offers advice to help increase your energy, experience balanced living, and become more present in the moment with those you love.
- The Parent’s Guide to Family Friendly Work: Finding the Balance Between Employment and Enjoyment, Lori K. Long, Ph.D.: Offers tips on how to search and negotiate for employment with flexible benefits that support healthy family relationships.
- What Is Work and Family Balance? And How Do I Get It?, Sandi Epstein: Ten brief questions to ask yourself or points to consider when seeking balance between work and family.
- 20 Tips To Stop Quibbling Siblings and Promote Sibling Harmony, by Dr. Sears: Whether you are preparing to welcome a new baby or have older children, you can use these tips to foster a lifelong friendship between siblings.
- Drowning in Motherhood: Three Survival Skills, by API: Attachment Parenting International offers tips for the times when it feels like your boat has sprung a leak.
Yoga and Meditation
- Mindful Parenting, by Stephanie Renfrow Hamilton: This inspiring story is written by a mother who turned to yoga to become to become more spiritual and present, and to help find balance between personal and family life. As she says in her article, “In essence, daily life is a mixture of the simple (laundry) and the sublime (bedtime kisses and songs), and the practice of yoga can help with both.”
- Swami Mommy, by Judith Hanson Lasater: This article discusses how parenting, like yoga, is a balancing act, and that just as in your yoga practice, you don’t have to do everything “perfectly” to reap the rewards of what you are doing.
- Mindful Parenting On and Off the Mat, by Kari Marble: This article talks about connecting with our babies using practices learned through the art of yoga, and how learning to focus in the present moment and finding that state of awareness can help us better respond to our children and our ourselves. The author discusses letting go of control and expectations in order to better appreciate each moment as it comes.
“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.” – Albert Einstein
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