E-Mail 'The Choice We Can’t Change' To A Friend Email a copy of 'The Choice We Can’t Change' to a friend * Required Field Your Name: * Your E-Mail: * Your Remark: Friend's Name: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Friend's E-Mail: * Separate multiple entries with a comma. Maximum 5 entries. Image Verification: * Loading ... 10 Responses to The Choice We Can’t Change Lorien November 11, 2010 at 2:23 pm Mama, when we know better, we do better. It’s true that you cannot undo the past, but writing and advocating and telling other mamas of your regret can change the future for some other little boy. Hugs to you for your pain, but please also accept my congratulations on being open to knowledge, regret and change. Elena November 12, 2010 at 6:42 am Thank you so much for speaking out. Your courage in telling your story will help other mothers make a decision they will feel comfortable with! Your children are lucky to have such a loving, wise and thoughtful mother. Rachel MrsRachelLugo November 12, 2010 at 8:26 am My son is 19 now and, to this day, I still remember when he was brought back to me after being circumcised. I will never forget the “stunned” look on his puffy-eyed little face and the deafening silence as he lay wrapped tightly in the corner of the bassinet. The regret, fear and sadness just went right through me. Even worse is when he was a little older and his pediatrician (who was Jewish) commented to me about how he was butchered (the skin was noticeably cut deeply on one side). I haven’t had another son yet, but when I do he will be untouched! Jenny babyfingers November 12, 2010 at 1:02 pm I think it’s great that you are sharing your story. It’s so helpful to others who are still struggling with this decision. I’m about 95% sure that if our firstborn had been a boy, we would’ve opted to circ. Luckily the first two were girls. Now we are pregnant again and, having had years to think it over and read stories like yours, we know we won’t be allowing it. Kat November 14, 2010 at 5:57 pm Thanks for sharing your story, I know it can’t be easy to relive the experience, but I know you will be helping many to make an informed choice. Many hugs! kelly @kellynaturally kellynaturally November 15, 2010 at 10:13 am Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have a good friend who circumcised her 1st son, because she didn’t know any better, and didn’t circ her 2nd son, because she did. You make the best decisions you can with the information you have at the time, mama. Forgive yourself, and choose to make a difference in the future. ((hugs)) Momma Jorje November 15, 2010 at 9:09 pm Thank you for sharing your story (and pain) with us here. My husband and I hope to conceive a son next year. While I told him we could argue this topic when we get a confirmed male, he wanted to argue it. I plan to send him a link to this article. So yeah, you may directly impact other little boys’ lives. Lisa C. mommyinondfly November 18, 2010 at 7:36 pm I am moved by your story, and your courage to share… Although I have g/g twins, I can relate to so many things done out of feeling it’s the norm and just being part of the flock… that I TOO wish I had KNOWN and done differently. But knowledge is power, and you just empowered a few, KUDOS mama…. Heather November 18, 2010 at 9:00 pm Wow, I read your story and I felt like you wrote it for me – everything you wrote from the reasons you thought you should circumcise to how you felt about it after, was everything that went through my head as well, and after educating myself on the topic years later, I now realize that there is so much more to it, and like you said, if I ever have another son, I will not put him through that pain. Thanks so much for the touching story, I am sure it will open many more eyes. William Swaffer April 24, 2013 at 7:19 pm As a circumcised man who resents it, it is interesting to get a mother’s perspective on how easily it can happen within a culture that thinks that cutting healthy parts off a baby is normal. Reading this has helped me to progress along the path of understanding and forgiveness.